There are already enough children in the world.

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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 10:41pm
"But not crass enough to read private guidance documents that are intended for military wifes? Yeah, gotcha." These are government documents, not private and not classified. You can order them right off the GPO if you are so inclined. I guess you were just trying to portray SavCal in the worst possible light by making up something about her sharing private documents?
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:30am
"I don't think it's that our kids love what we love, it's that we love them no matter what they love." I like the way you phrased that. I was also thinking back on the whole experience and thinking that there were a lot of things that were fun the first few times but eventually got old. Cub Scout Pinewood Derby, for instance. The first few times were fun. By the fifth pinewood Derby car, it was getting a little tedious. By round nine , I was more than ready to be done. Toga Day at the kids' old school? First three togas were loads of fun. after nine years of sewing toga costumes, I hope I never make another toga as long as I live.
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:32am

bordwithyou wrote:
"But not crass enough to read private guidance documents that are intended for military wifes? Yeah, gotcha." These are government documents, not private and not classified. You can order them right off the GPO if you are so inclined. I guess you were just trying to portray SavCal in the worst possible light by making up something about her sharing private documents?

Maybe I should change my username to Snowden or Asange.

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"First three togas were loads of fun. after nine years of sewing toga costumes, I hope I never make another toga as long as I live." --------- LOL, reminds me of dd's obsession with being a fairy for carnival when she was little. The first couple of times, it was fun to make her all pouffed and sparkly, but eventually sewing rhinestones did, indeed, get old.
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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 2:43pm

Since your DH was not married when he was active duty then neither him or his spouse would have attended a class geared towards making the transistion back. 

Class? I thought it was paperwork she saw? 

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 4:15pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium; text-align:left">Since your DH was not married when he was active duty then neither him or his spouse would have attended a class geared towards making the transistion back. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium; text-align:left">Class? I thought it was paperwork she saw? </span></strong></p>

You're trying to create a discrepancy where there is none.  There are "classes" for that sort of thing. There is also paperwork. I saw the latter. I believe that Empty experienced the former.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 4:22pm

You're trying to create a discrepancy where there is none.  There are "classes" for that sort of thing. There is also paperwork. I saw the latter. I believe that Empty experienced the former.

I asked a question. That is all.

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 4:33pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You're trying to create a discrepancy where there is none.  There are "classes" for that sort of thing. There is also paperwork. I saw the latter. I believe that Empty experienced the former.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I asked a question. That is all.</span></strong></p>

Why would you ask Empty about what I saw or didn't see? Wouldn't that question be better directed at me?

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mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium; text-align:left">Since your DH was not married when he was active duty then neither him or his spouse would have attended a class geared towards making the transistion back. </span></p><p><strong><span style="font-family:'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size:medium; text-align:left">Class? I thought it was paperwork she saw? </span></strong></p>

Some classes give handouts. 

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 6:33pm
    mortyswife wrote:
    <p><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">You're trying to create a discrepancy where there is none.  There are "classes" for that sort of thing. There is also paperwork. I saw the latter. I believe that Empty experienced the former.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px; text-align:left">I asked a question. That is all.</span></strong></p>

    Why would you ask Empty about what I saw or didn't see? Wouldn't that question be better directed at me?

    You didnt mention classes.

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