There are already enough children in the world.

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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 7:45pm

"mortyswife wrote:

I found thardys comment interesting, falsely directed at bord of course since it wasn't her who introduced the topic but you....how unkind of her to say such things about a "friend".

I don't CARE what the HECK Thardy said, that was just UNCALLED for.

Why yes, many of her posts are uncalled for, I agree. Glad you agree with me against Bord." I dunno what you're talking about, Morty. I'm not even in this sub thread.

Are you denying that you told Thardy to go to hell?

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Tue, 09-24-2013 - 7:47pm
    "Some classes give handouts. And?" And it is easy to imagine where the paperwork SavCal has seen might have come from.
    Why would someone show another person, who is not in the military, this paperwork. Why would they care?
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    Yes, I am denying that I told Thardy to go to hell. I did remind her the Bible says you can go to hell for lying.
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    "Some classes give handouts. And?" And it is easy to imagine where the paperwork SavCal has seen might have come from. Why would someone show another person, who is not in the military, this paperwork. Why would they care?" Any number of reasons, really.
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    Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:00pm

    mortyswife wrote:
    <p>Are you still going on about this savcal? Lol. You dont really know what happens behind closed doors so your "experience" with reading anything is basically a mute point.</p>

    1. That would be "moot" point.

    2.  It was contextually relevant to the conversation at hand. 

    3. I wasn't bringing it up again - I was responding to YOU.   Heck, I didn't post about it for hours and hours and hours ... until you did again.

    "I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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    savcal2011 wrote:
    <p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>I guess your drive must be something else if you would not allow someone who has been up for 22 of the last 24 hours a little rest and relaxation before demanding that he service you. Curious, would you at least allow him to shower first?</blockquote></p><p>Reminds me  of the guidance that military wives are given when their husbands are coming home from deployment. They are highly encouraged to not initiate sex ... for several days. </p>

    Ok, I never got that advice.  I do think it's a good idea to not spend 24/7 with your spouse after a long deployment, spouses not used to living together for a year and then they come home and don't have work for a few days...can be a recipe for disaster.  But that's my own observation.

    “Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
    ― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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    Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:01pm

    mortyswife wrote:
    <p><span>Oh and you might want to read that again because didn't it say to not initiate?  Which of course isn't the same thing as not allowed.</span></p><p>So only the person who has returned can initiate? Is that what you are trying to say?</p>

    Again, it isn't a RULE or an ORDER.  anyone CAN initiate.  They are simply sometimes advised not to.

    "I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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    Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:02pm

    mortyswife wrote:
    <p><span>She didn't say they were private.</span></p><p>These are available to the public?</p>

    They weren't classified documents, so under FOIA, yes.  And in my particular experiences, they weren't even government produced documents. 

    "I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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    Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:02pm
    "There are no military "rules" about who can or cannot initiate sex. The suggested guidelines are that the person returning should be the one initiating for the first few weeks, anyway. Andyou know what happens behind their closed doors too? What is your point?" Perhaps it's time for a change of subject again. You seem to be having difficulty with the current direction of the conversation.
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    Tue, 09-24-2013 - 8:03pm

    mortyswife wrote:
    <div style="color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:16px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><ul></ul></div></div><div style="border-bottom-color:#cccccc; border-bottom-width:1px; border-bottom-style:solid; color:#111111; font-family:Arial, Helvetica, Helvetica, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size:16px; font-style:normal; font-variant:normal; font-weight:normal; text-align:left; text-indent:0px; text-transform:none; background-color:#ffffff"><div><div><div>"Some classes give handouts. And?" And it is easy to imagine where the paperwork SavCal has seen might have come from.</div></div><div></div><div>Why would someone show another person, who is not in the military, this paperwork. Why would they care?</div></div></div>

    As I stated already, because my friends were confiding in me, sharing with me, in preparation for their husbands' returns.

    "I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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