There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Registered: 09-15-2013
Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:53am

Talk about a leap.

What leap? No crimes have ever happened to American's any place else in the world? There are been murders on cruise ships. Does that mean I should not have gone without my kids or gone at all?

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Hey Bord....remember all the posts over the years about how hard it was to get a babysitter when kids were little, how hard it was to travel with them, how tough it was with kids sometimes and so on and so forth?

Now it's all super easy and fun!  I feel like we have fallen down the rabbit hole into fairy tale land, lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Do you have trouble with the concept of "sometimes," Morty? I said that I "sometimes" find socializing exhausting and prefer to stay home and relax. Do you find an evening at home with nothing in the schedule besides a cup of tea and a good book to be frightening?
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:55am

I can stay up until midnight and get up at 5:15 once in awhile, particularly when I can go back to bed later. I can't stay up late and get up in time to dtive my son to work by 4:30 on a regular basis and go to work and function effectively. Biology again.

What type of job does your son have that he has to be there at 4:30 in the morning?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:58am

Hey Bord....remember all the posts over the years about how hard it was to get a babysitter when kids were little, how hard it was to travel with them, how tough it was with kids sometimes and so on and so forth?

Now it's all super easy and fun!  I feel like we have fallen down the rabbit hole into fairy tale land, lol.

Oh so sorry to hear that. I guess I was lucky that I had family as babysitters so we were able to go out. We also traveled with our kids since they were very little. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:58am

So you visit other parts of the world to one up others visit outside the country? Why?

 


 


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mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I'm not sure that I believe one or two...but on number 3?  </span><span style="font-size:13px">You don't realize there is a big difference between taking a cruise and traveling to Egypt?</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Oh I am sorry, didn't realize GOING OUT OF THE COUNTRY was such a big difference.</span></strong></p>

You don't realize that there is a difference between countries and the safety of tourists in various countries?  You might want to notify the state department because they have a country by country warnings list and I guess according to you that is a waste of tax payer dollars?

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:59am
My son is the morning shift supervisor at Starbucks. He has to be there at 4:30 am for the 5 am opening. As for traveling without the kids, I have done it many times over the years, to many places in the world. I did then down a trip to Egypt when it was deemed unsafe for Americans to be there touring. At the time, I believed that the risks outweighed the benefits.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 9:59am

Do you have trouble with the concept of "sometimes," Morty? I said that I "sometimes" find socializing exhausting and prefer to stay home and relax.

No you have said over and over how exhausting you have found socializing. 

Do you find an evening at home with nothing in the schedule besides a cup of tea and a good book to be frightening?

Frightening? What does that even mean?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:00am

mortyswife wrote:
<blockquote><div style="font-weight:bold"><em>mortyswife</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p style="font-size:13px"&gt;You were out until midnight last night? &lt;strong&gt;11pm, went to bed at 12&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px"&gt;You had a glass a wine on the porch? &lt;strong&gt;Yep&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p style="font-size:13px"&gt;You are comparing a cruise to a trip to Egypt?  &lt;strong&gt;It is a trip WITHOUT kids OUT of the country.&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote><p style="font-size:13px"></p><p style="font-size:13px">I'm not sure that I believe one or two...but on number 3?  You don't realize there is a big difference between taking a cruise and traveling to Egypt?</p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong>What don't you believe about 1 or 2? 1. We went to a high school football game last night. I usually go to bed between 11-12 every night anyway. 2. My dh and I always sit on the porch at night after the kids are in bed. Do you find that odd? </strong></p>

Honesty is tough and lives tend to change to fit the current discussion, that's why I have a hard time believing many things.

PumpkinAngel

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