There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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bordwithyou wrote:
I think in making any decision, you weigh risks and benefits. When the State Department is urging Americans not to travel to a particular area, the risk of going to that place is higher than normal. The possible benefits of the trip would not have been worth the risk to me. It seemed rather irresponsible at the time. It still does.

You take a lot for granted then. 

 


 


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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:02am

You don't realize that there is a difference between countries and the safety of tourists in various countries?  

Ummm..yes and Bord's response was that she didn't want her children orphaned and then it leapt into this. 

You might want to notify the state department because they have a country by country warnings list and I guess according to you that is a waste of tax payer dollars?

Another leap. Where did I say any of this?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:03am
Who visits other parts of the work to "one up others?" How pathetic you would even posit that. I travel for two reasons, mostly: c2) vi enjoy it. 2) it's my job. What any unnamed others might think of my traveling never enters my head. Why should it?
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:03am

My son is the morning shift supervisor at Starbucks. He has to be there at 4:30 am for the 5 am opening.

Isn't he old enough to drive himself?

As for traveling without the kids, I have done it many times over the years, to many places in the world. I did then down a trip to Egypt when it was deemed unsafe for Americans to be there touring. At the time, I believed that the risks outweighed the benefits.

You could have easily said that in the FIRST post then. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:03am

bordwithyou wrote:
I thought about the possibility of my kids being early orphaned because at the time we were offered the trip to Egypt, American tourists were being murdered there. It didn't stem worth the risk to me at the time.

And it no longer has to be Egypt.  I do know parents who've taken separate flights.  One with the kids, the other parent alone.  Or both parents leave the kids home, take 2 different flights.  (I've long suspected a selfish reason from the one dad I know who let mom fly with the kids!) 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:03am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Talk about a leap.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">What leap? No crimes have ever happened to American's any place else in the world? There are been murders on cruise ships. Does that mean I should not have gone without my kids or gone at all?</span></strong></p>

Saying that one didn't travel to a country where the state deparment advises not to travel to your dramatic grand leap to NOTHING happens anyplace else question.  It's a mighty leap.

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:04am
What do you mean by "you take a lot for granted?" Jamblessed?
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:04am

bordwithyou wrote:
Do you have trouble with the concept of "sometimes," Morty? I said that I "sometimes" find socializing exhausting and prefer to stay home and relax. Do you find an evening at home with nothing in the schedule besides a cup of tea and a good book to be frightening?

I find it totally wonderful....

PumpkinAngel

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:04am

Honesty is tough and lives tend to change to fit the current discussion, that's why I have a hard time believing many things.

Sorry to hear that you have trust issues with people. I have no need to lie. Would you like to see my post on facebook when the game ended? Would you like me to take a picture next time my dh and I sit on our porch, him smoking a cigar and me having a glass of wine? BAER.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:05am

mortyswife wrote:
<p style="font-size:13px">Hey Bord....remember all the posts over the years about how hard it was to get a babysitter when kids were little, how hard it was to travel with them, how tough it was with kids sometimes and so on and so forth?</p><p style="font-size:13px">Now it's all super easy and fun!  I feel like we have fallen down the rabbit hole into fairy tale land, lol.</p><p style="font-size:13px"><strong>Oh so sorry to hear that. I guess I was lucky that I had family as babysitters so we were able to go out. We also traveled with our kids since they were very little. </strong></p>

Hmm, I think you should have started that with once a upon time...

PumpkinAngel

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