There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:11am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Hmm, I think you should have started that with once a upon time...</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Why? You must have a very short memory.</span></strong></p>

Because that's how fairy tales start and I think you hope I have a short memory, but that isn't the case.  :)

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:12am
It wasn't a statement, it was a question. The answer could be "yes," "no," or "sometimes." That is the way that language works.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:12am

I guess I thought most people who understand world affairs would understand why when I said that I turned down a trip to Egypt when the kids were small because of the risks involved.

Nope and I am sure I was not the only one as there have been many things over the years and if we have no plans to go someplace, we don't look more into it. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:14am

Oh FYI my post of the winning score of the game was from 11 hours ago. I don't know if your math is the same as mine but that would be 11:13pm. (names have been taken out)


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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:15am

It wasn't a statement, it was a question. The answer could be "yes," "no," or "sometimes." That is the way that language works.

Who is this to?

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bordwithyou wrote:
I have said over and over that I "sometimes" find socializing exhausting. I only have said it over and over because some of you sermon to find this rather simple concept puzzling and have repeatedly asked for clarification. As for the meaning of the word "frightening," you can find it in any reliable dictionary.

You've called real friendship difficult.  Pair that up with parenting and you've got a perspective about life I do not...  To paraphrase Dr.Phil, I hope it's working for you. 

 

 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:17am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I didn't say that I have trust issues with people, stop making stuff up.  No, as I have said numerous times now over many threads I have no interest in seeing your facebook photos.  Please stop asking.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">So why think that I am not telling the truth? I have no need to make anything up. You can ask my FB friends with whom I spend time with and post things. Jam can tell you when I posted last night if you REALLY need to know. </span></strong></p>

Because of the constant made up comments. Again, I have no interest in facebook with you, what part of that is still not clear after all of my comments?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:18am

Because of the constant made up comments. Again, I have no interest in facebook with you, what part of that is still not clear after all of my comments?

Bawahhhaaa...I tell the truth. No need to lie. Yes, I CAN do things in life that others say they can't. Shrug. I have posted my fb status for you :)

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:19am

bordwithyou wrote:
I wouldn't be as dramatic as to say I have had to "sacrifice" much in order to raise kids. I think there is a certain amount of drudgery involved in the process. I don't know how people raise kids responsibly without that drudgery, unless they are very wealthy and willing to hired out all the "less fun " parts of parenting.

I'm sure everything's much easier when someone's wealthy.  I sah and personally didn't want to hire out the childcare parts either.  Nor did I have family nearby or to babysit on any regular basis.  But I still didn't experience drudgery and I'm surprised immersing yourself in your academic field didn't eviscerate your  drudgery.  Many parents find themselves in jobs they hate AND they experience tedium or drudgery raising kids.  I'm not sure of your field, but if I needed the second salary, I would've found relief from any tedium in immersing myself in my chosen field of academia like you have.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:19am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">I guess I thought most people who understand world affairs would understand why when I said that I turned down a trip to Egypt when the kids were small because of the risks involved.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Nope and I am sure I was not the only one as there have been many things over the years and if we have no plans to go someplace, we don't look more into it. </span></strong></p>

I didn't have any problems understanding the issue and if I am traveling out of the US, I always check the state deparment website for possible travel alerts.  Especially if I were traveling to a country that has a history of being volatile, that is simply smart traveling, imo.

PumpkinAngel

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