There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:20am

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">It wasn't a statement, it was a question. The answer could be "yes," "no," or "sometimes." That is the way that language works.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Who is this to?</span></strong></p>

Perhaps to you since you mistook a question of mine to you as a statement and asked me where you said it when it was clearly a question.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:20am
I do think most people are current enough with the state of the world and recent history to remember the tourist massacres in Luxor fifteen or so years ago. It's not exactly esoteric knowledge. I don't really think it's incumbent on a poster to offer a lesson on world history, whatever to make sure every reader is up to speed on what's really common knowledge.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:20am

jamblessedthree wrote:
Remember the Holloway case in Aruba.. I think that part of the world drew tourism many times over after that b/c of all the publicity. Chance of crime is more likely to happen here less the cozy midwest! Lol!

Good point!  Planes crash, but very, very rarely. 

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:20am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>I have said over and over that I "sometimes" find socializing exhausting. I only have said it over and over because some of you sermon to find this rather simple concept puzzling and have repeatedly asked for clarification. As for the meaning of the word "frightening," you can find it in any reliable dictionary.</blockquote></p><p>You've called real friendship difficult.  Pair that up with parenting and you've got a perspective about life I do not...  To paraphrase Dr.Phil, I hope it's working for you. </p>

I think so...as a friend who knows her family, I think it is working.  Honesty in life tends to work.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:22am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>I wouldn't be as dramatic as to say I have had to "sacrifice" much in order to raise kids. I think there is a certain amount of drudgery involved in the process. I don't know how people raise kids responsibly without that drudgery, unless they are very wealthy and willing to hired out all the "less fun " parts of parenting.</blockquote></p><p>I'm sure everything's much easier when someone's wealthy.  I sah and personally didn't want to hire out the childcare parts either.  Nor did I have family nearby or to babysit on any regular basis.  But I still didn't experience drudgery and I'm surprised immersing yourself in your academic field didn't eviscerate your  drudgery.  Many parents find themselves in jobs they hate AND they experience tedium or drudgery raising kids.  I'm not sure of your field, but if I needed the second salary, I would've found relief from any tedium in immersing myself in my chosen field of academia like you have.</p>

You are a sahm?  Just yesterday in the other thread you were talking about fb, pming and how easy it was for you to keep a window open at work to pm.  

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:22am
The post about the question was to you, Morty. You said my "statement" using the word "frightening" made no sense. I pointed out it was a question and referred you to a dictionary, if necessary.
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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:22am

Wish I could continue with this lovely discussion but I have to get ready for a car wash. lol. Don't have time to sit around and complain how "less" fun my life is. I am going to go MAKE fun as I usually do Laughing

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:23am

bordwithyou wrote:
I do think most people are current enough with the state of the world and recent history to remember the tourist massacres in Luxor fifteen or so years ago. It's not exactly esoteric knowledge. I don't really think it's incumbent on a poster to offer a lesson on world history, whatever to make sure every reader is up to speed on what's really common knowledge.

Well, that's insulting.  Thanks!  I would love to visit Israel someday, but know enough not to.  If we wanted to travel abroad together somewhere, it would not be Israel at this time.  Like your Egypt trip, it can be "saved" for later.  It's not something to blame on the kids.

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:24am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>Remember the Holloway case in Aruba.. I think that part of the world drew tourism many times over after that b/c of all the publicity. Chance of crime is more likely to happen here less the cozy midwest! Lol!</blockquote></p><p>Good point!  Planes crash, but very, very rarely.  </p>

What does a plane crash have to do with the Holloway case?  

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Sat, 09-21-2013 - 10:24am
My life is generally going quite well, Jamblessed. Thanks for asking.

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