There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 4:30pm

Double Post

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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 4:29pm

I had them because I really like children and wanted to raise some of my own. We had some fertility issues so I had to confront the possibility of never having biological kids, but never actually thought of not having some kids, somehow. I don't think I would be quite as happy/fulfilled if I'd never become a mother, but I might be more "fun." Even the most wanted and beloved kids in the world can suck the fun right out of life occasionally.

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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 4:08pm

For me it was a mostly unthinking next step in life.  I graduated from school, worked and sampled corporate America, married, and saw every family member, married friends having kids and "moving forward."  No one even discussed not having kids.   It was just a question of when, how many.

Way back then, as now, I do enjoy children.  For about 5 years, I had a summer job working with children and I liked babysitting.  Like just now, my son did something ridiculously silly that made me laugh out loud, as usual.  I find children at their ages to be entertaining.  It also just seemed to work well for my parents and family, friends.  I probably never thought of not having kids either.

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