There are already enough children in the world.

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There are already enough children in the world.
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Thu, 09-19-2013 - 3:59pm

Here's an article where 5 women explain why they chose not to have any children.  http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/5-women-explain-why-chose-not-kids-165300500.html

Did you ever think about not having children?  Like some of the women, would you have had more time to enjoy your husband?  Would you be divorced? Wink  Basically, why did you have children instead of not having children?

If you don't have time for the whole article, some of the reasons included 1.) having a fulfilling life already, 2.) growing up with dysfunctional parents or other close relatives/friends who were miserable because they had kids, 3.) getting to sleep in late, travel the world, not spend the money on kids, 4.) a biggie ~ not feeling the maternal impulse.

Would you life be as happy/fun/fulfilled if you hadn't had children?

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mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px">Thardy, because the way I understand it,<strong> you can go to hell for lying.</strong></span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Wow, really?</span></strong></p>

I found thardys comment interesting, falsely directed at bord of course since it wasn't her who introduced the topic but you....how unkind of her to say such things about a "friend".

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:56pm

"I didn't say they weren't allowed to have intimacy. And it isn't "hearsay" as I saw and read the guidance documents. I said nothing about what happened in their bedrooms the night they came home. I'm not crass enough to ask those questions." That really would be crass!

But not crass enough to read private guidance documents that are intended for military wifes? Yeah, gotcha.

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:55pm

"Reminds me  of the guidance that military wives are given when their husbands are coming home from deployment. They are highly encouraged to not initiate sex ... for several days."

I didn't say they weren't allowed to have intimacy. 

Yes, you did, for several days.

And it isn't "hearsay" as I saw and read the guidance documents.

Why would you be interested in these and why would someone come out and show someone these?

I said nothing about what happened in their bedrooms the night they came home. I'm not crass enough to ask those questions.

So you really do NOT know but you said that They are highly encouraged to not initiate sex ... for several days." 

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thardy2001 wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>Yea thardy, b/c sex is far more interesting than your husband needing to catch up on sleep as an excuse for your time here...</blockquote></p><p>Can you imagine?  And despite all of her posturing, Bord was the first to introduce her private life as an issue for debate.  Here it is ~</p><div><em>bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div><p>I guess your drive must be something else if you would not allow someone who has been up for 22 of the last 24 hours a little rest and relaxation before demanding that he service you. Curious, would you at least allow him to shower first?</p><p>Lots of posturing and playing the victim going on.  How juvenile.</p>

That is simply untrue, how unkind.

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:54pm
"I didn't say they weren't allowed to have intimacy. And it isn't "hearsay" as I saw and read the guidance documents. I said nothing about what happened in their bedrooms the night they came home. I'm not crass enough to ask those questions." That really would be crass!
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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:50pm

mortyswife wrote:
<p><span style="font-size:13px"><strong>What are you sorry for?</strong> The only negative in their experiences was a 6-month separation from their spouse.  Please, don't create negativity and pity where there is none.</span></p><p><strong><span style="font-size:13px">Ummm....the separation of intimacy you are saying they are not allowed to have. But this is only hear-say, right? You weren't actually IN their bedroom that first night they came home, right? (I truly hope not lol).</span></strong></p>

I didn't say they weren't allowed to have intimacy.  And it isn't "hearsay" as I saw and read the guidance documents. I said nothing about what happened in their bedrooms the night they came home. I'm not crass enough to ask those questions.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:49pm
"<> Then why all the comments and questions about her personal life?" I know, right? How's life in the big city, PKA? I'm going to be busting through about supper time Thursday on the way to Indiana.
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jamblessedthree wrote:
Yea thardy, b/c sex is far more interesting than your husband needing to catch up on sleep as an excuse for your time here...

Interesting twist to the fairy tale...

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Mon, 09-23-2013 - 9:48pm

What are you sorry for? The only negative in their experiences was a 6-month separation from their spouse.  Please, don't create negativity and pity where there is none.

Ummm....the separation of intimacy you are saying they are not allowed to have. But this is only hear-say, right? You weren't actually IN their bedroom that first night they came home, right? (I truly hope not lol).

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jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Now its sounding like punishment, Going to bed without dinner, Lol J/K</p>

Why yes, the fairy tale being written is under an editing process it would seem....

PumpkinAngel

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