Is there a real difference?

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Is there a real difference?
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Mon, 07-27-2009 - 3:56pm
Is there a SAHM "type" and a WOHM "type" of woman, or is the choice more dependent on circumstances? If you are one or the other, are there circumstances you could imagine switching roles, or are you "programmed" to be one or the other? If you are "programmed" who or what do you think is reponsible for your programming?

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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 2:53pm

I generally don't think there is a certain type to SAH or WOH.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 3:09pm
Never mind.


Edited 7/28/2009 3:16 pm ET by bordwithyou
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 3:11pm

I agree with the consensus, that most people would be willing to change places if their circumstances changed dramatically. I do think there are some people, though, who would never been happy if they were not bringing in an income and contributing financially to the family, and others who would never be happy if they had to work outside the home, particularly if working outside the home would involve othercare for their children.

I always assumed I'd stay home with my kids when there were small. It didn't work out that way, and I was mostly happy with the choice.

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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 3:47pm
Teaching summer school. How are you?
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 5:01pm

wow. that would be a pretty impressive trick -- having others get you thrown off a message board.

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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:28pm
I don't know that it's a "type," but if you have a choice, it's a difference in parenting philosophy. I don't think anybody is programmed to believe one thing or another, but your upbringing and life experiences (positive and negative) are certainly going to play into how you choose to parent your own children.
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:37pm
I dunno. I think there are different things for different times in your life. I was ambitious when I was young, single, and childless, not so much now.
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:48pm
Never thought they'd go so far as to ban someone's ISP... they sure would be shutting out a lot of people, especially if the ISP is someone big like AT&T or Verizon.
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 2:23am
Again, I think that really varies from person to person. Also, I repeat, by "ambitious" I do not mean a relentless quest to make partner. I mean it in a much broader sense. I thought that maybe the need to be in the world would somehow evaporate once I had a kid, but it did not.
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 4:22am

I always thought I'd love SAH, but I ended up really keen to get back to work.

I think right now I have a PTWOH personality. My mum also found SAH difficult, so it may be inherited :o) I don't want to spend MORE time at work than I do with my baby, but I do need a balance of both in my life.

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