Is there a real difference?

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Is there a real difference?
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Mon, 07-27-2009 - 3:56pm
Is there a SAHM "type" and a WOHM "type" of woman, or is the choice more dependent on circumstances? If you are one or the other, are there circumstances you could imagine switching roles, or are you "programmed" to be one or the other? If you are "programmed" who or what do you think is reponsible for your programming?

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 11:00am

What type of conversation would that be?

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 11:02am

I am as well....I have those type of conversations all the time.

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 11:02am

Very well said.


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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 9:26pm
Well, if by ambition, you mean "being in the world," I think pretty much everybody needs that. I don't think that has much to do with work status though.
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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 9:30pm

I think that's what I just said. There are different kinds and levels of ambitions at different times in your life, or at least that's the way it's been for me.

By ambition, I assumed rollmops meant career ambition, but it seems she meant it more broadly. However, I feel the same way about the broader definition.

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Wed, 07-29-2009 - 9:46pm
I find I tend to have these conversations more with pt wohms or the occasional sahm, since most of the moms with school-aged kids whom I see at the pool in the summers work pt, like me. I don't see the ft wohms at the pool during the week much, but I do see some of their kids there.
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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 2:06am

I was a SAHM to my twins till they were 2 1/2 yrs old. Finally I just couldn't deal with it anymore. As active as they are and as much "stuff" they need to be doing all the time was wearing me out! Every single day I would have to try to find activities for them out of the house. There is only so much you can do! I enrolled them in 3 full days a week of "early pre-school". I LOVE IT! They are getting so so much more from being around a bunch of other toddlers with activities all day long than being with me stressed out all day trying to figure out what to do. It is the BEST thing I ever did! Some may look at it like i'm putting them in daycare but when they are at this age, it's so much more than "babysitting". It's playtime all day! What more could you ask for? Basically i'm paying someone to entertain my kids all day. Something I don't have the patience to do. When I go to pick them up, it takes me almost 15 minutes to leave the building cuz they have to show me e'thing and say bye to everyone. They love it! I actually feel bad on their days off cuz i'm thinking of what they could be doing if I had them 5 days a week instead of 3. Now I'm considering it. I can't stand needy mommy-centric sheltered children who have moms that hover over them constantly. This is what i've seen from my friends with same age kids who won't enroll them in anything. I know not everyone can afford to do this and I do consider it a luxury. I just can't see what there is to debate about putting them in these programs when they are at this type of age.
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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 2:22am

I have met women who do not seem to need it really. Socializing with other moms with all the kids around and getting involved in the Junior League, for example, is sufficient for them (seemingly).

As I already said, I am sure there are places and circumstances that allow a SAHM to do more than the above, but personally I have found it much easier to find what I need in a work situation of some kind.

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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:01am
Oh my Lord, I think I'd rather have PKA's job than join the Junior League! LOL

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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 6:40am
I may be wrong, but I think we may be too old for the Junior League.

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