Is there resolution for the debate?

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Is there resolution for the debate?
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:16am
How can I come to a resolution.

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Registered: 09-21-2008
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 10:47am

I think your feelings are completely valid and normal.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 2:51pm

"I think that if given the choice of wokring or not working many would choose the not working option if feasible/acceptable."

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 09-27-2008 - 4:23pm

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 10:17am
I completely understand what you are saying! I could go back and finish my nursing degree, or work part-time as a nursing assistant, or stay at home with my 8 month old. It took me a long time to figure out what to do. We did kinda need the money because we don't make a ton but I have never been the person to go OUT to work. There is more than enough to do at home and I don't want to miss anything. If I were in your situation with the kids at school it is really just a matter of what you WANT to do now when the kids are at school. As long as you are done what you want to do when they get out you aren't missing any time with them at all! So there's that part. Now about going back and getting your degree....DON'T UNLESS YOU WANT TO! A lot of people out there make it seem like you HAVE to have a degree to do anything worth while....SO not true. Plus then all they do is take your money anyway once you start working (taxes). You can make money easily at home if you want (i do). You can even turn a hobby into making money (crafts, etc). I'm a professional dog trainer to make money on the side, plus I work at home with Ameriplan which makes even more and challenges me!
There should never be an issue with whether a mom wants to stay at home with her child...you can ALWAYS make money at home...plus stay at home moms should be paid for all the work they do without a separate job!! I think all stay at home moms once their kids are in school have an amazing opportunity to find themselves again and what they enjoy and what potential they have! Be creative and find out what YOU want! Then everything will fall into place.
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-2006
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 10:29am

"you can ALWAYS make money at home"


Really, I do not know of any occupations where there are unlimited openings. If that were true then there would

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 11:17am
Well first, the being paid to stay at home was more of a joke than anything else! If there was somewhere for the money to come from then we probably would be paid. And you would not be paid for the 'LAUNDRY' you did you would get paid for keeping the household up (just like you pay housekeepers) for the early education you give your child, etc. Because if you did not stay home you would be PAYING other people to do this for you. But it was just a joke.
And YES no matter who you are or what you do you can make money from home. Sometimes if takes a little creativity sometimes is takes a little luck. I have made heat packs at HOME in a variety of different sizes and applications and made quite a bit from them. I work for a company at HOME that is ALWAYS looking for more people, I work from HOME as a professional dog trainer. This is just the things that I choose to do but there are many more you just have to actually use your brain and not accept what society says you have to do to succeed. Once you just accept that and do not try to strive for better and different our culture will not grow or prosper never mind your lifestyle. People who try to tell people they can't make money at home irritate me because they are ignorant they have no fact to back that up when I do have facts to back up that anyone can!
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 11:23am

>.you can ALWAYS make money at home...plus stay at home moms should be paid for all the work they do without a separate job!!<

Having a wahp can be more confusing to children than having 2 wohps. The parent is at home but not always available. It can be easier on everyone if the child goes to daycare even when the parent is home working. Not to mention safer in some cases.

>A lot of people out there make it seem like you HAVE to have a degree to do anything worth while....SO not true. Plus then all they do is take your money anyway once you start working (taxes). You can make money easily at home if you want (i do). You can even turn a hobby into making money (crafts, etc). I'm a professional dog trainer to make money on the side, plus I work at home with Ameriplan which makes even more and challenges me! <

And this confuses me. Don't you pay taxes on the income you make as a dog trainer and from Ameriplan? What if everyone stayed home to avoid paying taxes? Where would the money come from to pay the sahp?

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 11:34am

I know that working at/from home is a viable way to earn money. I do it, one sister does it (more than 26 years while raising 2 children as a single mom for most of it), my fil did it (after their children were adults; he worked 50 hours a week and went to night school while my dh was in high school in order to change careers), my other sister has done it (without children), a number of my friends have done it. But it's not easy and comes with some of the same "sacrifices" and compromises as woh does. Not all wah jobs/careers lend themselves to working around the kiddies, especially if one wants/needs to earn more than a few dollars doing it and/or to build up the business. As an ah employee, a company can require a certain number of hours (and even which hours) to be dedicated toward the job. Even as a dog trainer, I could see where you would need to find some type of other care for your child/ren at times in order to accommodate clients' requirements.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 11:40am
people need to think before they ask questions. Ofcourse I pay taxes but I do pay less. Plus I get all of it back plus more because I can deduct at least half of our monthly expenses because I work at home. And I do NOT send my daughter to daycare because I work when she is napping which is 4 hours a day, not to mention when my husband is home and playing with her (spending time with her daddy after being with mommy all day)I put in an hour or two. Having your own business or position at home is very flexible. I just spent 3 weeks moving and I could put down my work and just move (I still worked about 4 hours a week but that's it) and just picked it back up again.
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 11:48am
and about the dog training. I have clients come to my home (the same as if they went to a training facility) and if I have to go to them I schedule it for when my husband is home considering that is when most of my clients are home. She always has one parent or the other. Plus my daughter loves the dogs! Yes working at home took an adjustment to make it work but that is all. And really that is only because there is very few people out there to help you figure it out. Plenty of people go to work and everyone knows how that works. All I have said before this is that if someone really wants to, or needs to, work at home they can! There are plenty of options, just as many, just different, than working out of the home. You choose what job you want, so if it is a position that is not good with kids then DON'T DO IT, DUH! People talk like they don't have choices, you do just look. People accept what they have been told to be true and that's it. If that was right then there would be no inventions and no progress. Especially with something that more and more people are doing. If so many people are doing it then OFCOURSE it can't work! Especially not around you're children.
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr

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