Is there resolution for the debate?

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Is there resolution for the debate?
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Thu, 09-25-2008 - 10:16am
How can I come to a resolution.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:02pm

I know about business deductions when wah, or rather my very experienced tax accountant does. Frankly, I save all receipts and let her decide. And your dd is only 7 months old (according to your profile), that 4 hour nap (or 2 2 hour naps) isn't doing to last forever.

People also need to proof read (out loud if necessary) what they write before they post to make sure that is exactly what they want to say and to see if it reads what they want to say. Hence the questions.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:28pm

I know about limiting my client base because of working around children. I did it for years. It's not the way to build up a business. However, if one only wants to have a pt business, it can work, at least in the short term. By limiting your dog training business hours of operation, you are also limiting your client base.

I've had a dressmaking/alteration business at home for over 20 years. I did it pt until 7 years ago. Now it's full time. When I started, we had 3 girls (6, 4, and newborn when I started). After our son was born, I worked ft at a bridal shop doing alterations and my ah business was very pt. I switched it when our son was 3. I tried doing just the ah dressmaking business while watching him. That didn't work; I couldn't make enough money to replace my paycheck from the bridal shop until I put him back into daycare. He also wanted to go back to daycare. He had friends there to play with. Kids he saw every day; not just kids he had to make friends with at the park every time he was there. I was asked to go back to the bridal shop because they never found a replacement for me. So now I work 18-21 hours a week at the bridal shop and 20-40 hours a week at my ah dressmaking business.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:38pm
that sounds great! my mom, and mother-in-law both did alterations and wedding dress making for while (one pro-bono; one her own business around the kids) and yes I do limit my business by limiting my hours but I also fill it up with my other wah business (paycheck wise). I also have family near-by to help me with entertaining my daughter so if I need to put a couple more hours in I can. I do plan to eventually go ft with the dog training tho. But that won't be until she is in daycare or preschool. I am considering sending her to a small in-home daycare a couple of days a week for about 6 hours, not because I really need the time but because I want her to develop friends and the social skills. We're planning on only having one child so I really want her to have a lot of friends even if she is only 7 months old. It sounds like you work a lot of hours; I don't know how you do it. I'm young and this is our first and only so I struggle with just adjusting to working about 15 hours a week. How old are your kids?
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:12pm

I've been a FT wohm for 17 years and never felt like I "missed" anything. Having a college degree will make you more marketable and, overall, could lead to more advancement in whatever business you are in. As a teacher, I would be nowhere if I didn't have my master's degree -- which I earned while going to school nights, working FT AND raising my kids.

sure you can make money at home, but I can't imagine even beginning to make the kind of money that I'm making now -- as a 19 year veteran teacher.

and, honestly, if sahms are going to be "paid" for their work at home, then I want 75% of that -- since I'm HOME 128 out of 168 hours per week -- and have to do all of those "mom" things in that time.

As for me, I'm glad that I had already "found" myself and have been able to woh AND raise my kids all these years.

eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:28pm

my sister's been a wahm for about 5-6 years now. Her dd was always in dc, as my sister had to put in her 8 hours at home -- free of interruptions.

eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 09-28-2008 - 8:35pm

yes, you pay less, but you make less as well. I'll trade off paying more because i make more. As for getting money back from the government, our terrific accountant (exh's uncle) has managed to get us fairly hefty refunds in the last few years. do we wish it was more? Who wouldn't, LOL!

And, while your dd may nap 4 hours per day (just how old is she anyway?), that probably won't last all through her 0-5 years. Two of three of mine gave up napping around age 3.

when my dh is home, I like to spend time with him (and our children) -- 2nd marriage for both of us -- NOT spend it separate/working. To each his/her own.

eileen

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:54am

I work an average of 7-8 hours a day for 6 days a week. My day off is Sunday. But I'm usually sewing or crocheting then as well, except for myself and family instead of for pay. There are times when I even work 3-5 hours on Sunday for pay. I love what I do. It's more of an obsession than a career. I didn't start working these hours until the girls were in their early 20s/teens.

The girls are: Joy, 30, married with 2 kids with another one due in Jan/Feb; they live with us temporarily; Erica, 28, living with her so; they have their first child due the end of Nov; Angela, 24, living on her own and going to college. Dylan, our son, is 10 and in the 5th grade. He is our "only" child.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 4:32am
Please! Save it.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 7:27am
Then good for you....as I said before that no one seems to hear is that the being paid to stay at home was freakin' joke. Also, don't assume because people work at home that they don't make as much. My mother in-law started a home business with Hunter Douglas blinds and now THREE years later makes about....110,000 a year. And I make about half that starting only a couple of years ago. I have never said that staying at home is for everyone. The one thing that I have CONSISTENTLY said for the person who started this debate is that the resolution to this is to find what you want to do (and this is all in reference to her question about what to do when you are a sahm and your kids are in school, which is what started this.) and then do it. Whether that is working out of the home, volunteering, or whatever, then do it. My mom worked 60-70 hours a week to raise me on her own from when I was born to 6 years old. Then BOTH my mom and step-dad worked that much so I know what it is like to be the KID on the other end of that as. But from what you say you don't work that many hours, which is great, plus as a teacher you must get summers off! You guys must of had a blast!
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 7:31am
As I said before....people need to stop assuming....depending on what you do I bet I might make MORE than you. If not me then I know someone who does, and does it at home. And yes my daughter might take naps now (she is 7 months)but she will be going to in-home daycare 2 days a week (for about 6 hours each) soon just for social purposes; just because you choose to stay at home doesn't mean that pure isolation is good for your kid always. Also, I see my husband a lot because his job allows him to work part of the time at the office and part of the time home.
Jennifer Carr
Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner
http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr
Jennifer Carr Stay at Home Mom/Independent Business Owner http://www.freedomathometeam.com/jennifercarr

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