For those of us who aren't SAHM's

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For those of us who aren't SAHM's
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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 1:12am
I work in a processing facility as an engineer.

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Sat, 10-27-2007 - 1:30am

I dunno, it's not an issue for you in any practical sense right now. You sure this is the hill you want to die on right now?

Why not just let things go? You might not even be working there when you finally decide to start your family. And if you are, you can make your decisions and when questioned (if anyone does), just smile and tell them you've made the best decision for YOUR family and everyone is happy and thriving, thanks for their interest.

Given that you're not currently a parent, it seems to me that complaining about people's opinions about having a SAHM would just be looking for conflict where none is needed.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 8:22am

No, you shouldn't have said anything.

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Registered: 01-03-2005
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 11:21am

Thanks for you advice, I think I will start hanging out with a different crowd at work, I do have a few friends there that have WW and I think they do have more respect for women, or other working

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 4:55pm
Hey good to see you back.
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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 5:10pm

Thanks.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 6:34pm

More than one of my SAHM friends gets a household allowance from her dh.

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Registered: 08-23-2007
Sat, 10-27-2007 - 7:05pm
Why does it make you uncomfortable that some families like to have a stay at home parent? I don't think them discussing the positives of having a parent stay at home is a reason to get new friends. Perhaps you should have a more open mind. I think that as long as they're not pressuring you to do something you don't want to do (stay at home), then it doesn't really matter what they think or do in their own family.
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Sun, 10-28-2007 - 1:10am

There is nothing you should have said. It wasnt about you, and has nothing to do with you actually. The only thing you have in common wtih these women is gender. It wasnt meant to insult you, or make you feel uncomfortable.



I'm in an environment that is quite the opposite. Most the women I work with are working mothers, and many/ most of my partners who are men, have wives who also work. There is one partner in my office whose wife is a SAHM, and then there is me whose *husband* is a SAHD.


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Registered: 09-05-2007
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 2:31am

>>I have no idea why a woman would SAH with a dh who tells her what she can spend and treats her like a child. <<

Heck, I have no idea why ANY woman would marry a man like that at all.

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Registered: 10-04-2007
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 8:24am

Me neither.

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