Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 11:44am

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Isolation is now considered middle ground as is making parenting decisions without the impact of future peers and the possibility of being teased and or bullied?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 11:58am

Wow.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:04pm

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Well that does change the topic a bit since pnj and I were talking about 14 year olds, not 16 year olds.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:07pm
My kid seems to be going through a phase of being sensitive about being "different" or the center of attention in any way. I guess I could have predicted this....but really, he is *much* more upset about the fact that I recently changed my hairstyle in a rather radical way, causing all of his friends and friends' mothers to comment to him, than he is about the fact that his penis is intact. He recently asked me not to come to his school until my hair grew out a little! I'm sorry, but there comes a point where I just say, "It is as it is. Get over it."
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:09pm

This was my question:

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:10pm

Which doesn't answer the question.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:11pm

I disagree.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:13pm

Right, i know that, however, that does not prove it is just b/c you believe it is and you expect me to back my views but dont have to back your own.

That imo that is faulty reasoning.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:15pm

Well, as I said, I brought up isolation only because you seemed incredulous that anyone would consider others' opinions in childrearing, something that seems commonplace to me. But of course you've already described how your kids' sports activities and such aren't really very different from those of their peers, only that they got there some way other than being interested in their friends' opinions or to that effect. Beat me if I see the diff, but oh well.

Movies? To me, as important as plenty of other things. My kids go to movies about twice per month, and at their age, there are decisions to be made about which ones I want them to see and which ones I don't. And of course they also have their own opinions, sometimes based in part on the opinions of their buddies. Is that wrong?

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 12:18pm
Of course you have to disregard the dramas that are insignificant. The trick is to figure out which ones they are. I think most parents, quite unavoidably, tend to see what they want to see wrt what is or isn't momentous to their kids, as well as what should or shouldn't be.

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