okay thanks for making that clear. When i weaned my oldest at one from bottle he used his blankie ty pink kitty. I gave him other options, he spit the pacifier out at me very young so i never gave him the option agian to use one. He learned to cope with his need to suckle thru his confort object his "tee and ty" as he called them. :)
Probably because you are one of the few people who has been able to see past it all. It might not be for you, you might still feel an "ick" sentiment towards the idea of someone nursing their school-aged child, but you can at least see past that and UNDERSTAND some of the reasons why we do it. Even if you wouldn't choose to. That makes it worthwhile. :-)
understood, however, i did not want to be known as the only sourse of food i want dh to bond and when they are infant's bonding time is feeding time. Their whole life rotates around eating sleeping and pooping. Dh must be a part of this, imo! I pumped so dh could feed. He was away from them enough working to support us, the least i could do was allow him to feed them, he wanted to, i was not about to deny him that. He wants to take the kids to school everyday still, he forgots much of what he is asked to do but it keeps him involved in their achool lives and their lives in general.
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Then you just are not listening to me, b/c i see it as harmful to their well being. I see nothing benificial in allowing your eight year old to suck your breasts for a quick healthy snack or to feel safe and secure.
So does that mean that you feel many 3rd world countries and peoples who are not using *technology*, driving cars, wearing ties to work, eating with knives and forks...are uncivilized?
Not at all, uncivilized to me would mean no running water, or electricity.
I went to public school, and am in a major urban centre, so busses are easy to catch. Riding a bike was never a problem either though, obviously.
My boyfriend (then) was 6 mos younger than I was, and a grade behind me. We were both equally mobile by bike or bus. My parents knew about him, and his knew about me, but we didn't meet each other's parents for about 4 mos b/c he was pretty shy. The parents respected him on that matter and my parents weren't particularily worried since we were still pretty young, and it wasn't like I, as a 14-yo, was dating a 22yo or something. ;-)
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Na, it's not a valid point.
PumpkinAngel
okay thanks for making that clear. When i weaned my oldest at one from bottle he used his blankie ty pink kitty. I gave him other options, he spit the pacifier out at me very young so i never gave him the option agian to use one. He learned to cope with his need to suckle thru his confort object his "tee and ty" as he called them. :)
Ah, another straw man.
PumpkinAngel
...and I thank you.
PumpkinAngel
Did they meet him or know about him?
If my child wants to date at 14, it's going to be tough for him as bike riding and bussing would make it difficult.
PumpkinAngel
Probably because you are one of the few people who has been able to see past it all. It might not be for you, you might still feel an "ick" sentiment towards the idea of someone nursing their school-aged child, but you can at least see past that and UNDERSTAND some of the reasons why we do it. Even if you wouldn't choose to. That makes it worthwhile. :-)
Fio
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understood, however, i did not want to be known as the only sourse of food i want dh to bond and when they are infant's bonding time is feeding time. Their whole life rotates around eating sleeping and pooping. Dh must be a part of this, imo! I pumped so dh could feed. He was away from them enough working to support us, the least i could do was allow him to feed them, he wanted to, i was not about to deny him that. He wants to take the kids to school everyday still, he forgots much of what he is asked to do but it keeps him involved in their achool lives and their lives in general.
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Then you just are not listening to me, b/c i see it as harmful to their well being. I see nothing benificial in allowing your eight year old to suck your breasts for a quick healthy snack or to feel safe and secure.
So does that mean that you feel many 3rd world countries and peoples who are not using *technology*, driving cars, wearing ties to work, eating with knives and forks...are uncivilized?
Not at all, uncivilized to me would mean no running water, or electricity.
I went to public school, and am in a major urban centre, so busses are easy to catch. Riding a bike was never a problem either though, obviously.
My boyfriend (then) was 6 mos younger than I was, and a grade behind me. We were both equally mobile by bike or bus. My parents knew about him, and his knew about me, but we didn't meet each other's parents for about 4 mos b/c he was pretty shy. The parents respected him on that matter and my parents weren't particularily worried since we were still pretty young, and it wasn't like I, as a 14-yo, was dating a 22yo or something. ;-)
Fio
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I think you have the backwards.
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So then why did you say you didnt call it a date when your son was doing it?
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