Thoughts about this??

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-16-2007 - 7:09pm

I breastfed my children...but I can honestly say they didn't need to nurse for comfort.

They nursed when they were hungry...maybe because BOTH of my children also used pacifiers from birth, they used those for "comfort" and to fill their need of sucking.

My children also never came running when they got hurt and wanted to nurse. I would comfort them in other ways...holding them, rubbing their back, kissing their boo boos...but not by nursing them.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Mon, 04-16-2007 - 7:31pm

"They nursed when they were hungry...maybe because BOTH of my children also used pacifiers from birth, they used those for "comfort" and to fill their need of sucking."

So you agree that the need to suck is natural, biological, and instinctual?

But disagree that nursing for comfort is natural, biological, and instinctual?

Is that correct?

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Mon, 04-16-2007 - 10:38pm

I can't for the life of me figure out why you have such an issue with a child's natural, biological, instinctual need to suck as well as to nurse for comfort. It's simply built in to their biology. They are programmed that way. These needs are intrinsic to them. They are universal to every child.

Do you think that your children are somehow biologically different than every other child in the world?

Either your children have the same biological needs as every other child on the planet.

Did you forget what you wrote?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 8:58am

"Did you forget what you wrote?"

No. But apparently you did. You seem to have left most of it out. Here is the entire post again.

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I can't for the life of me figure out why you have such an issue with a child's natural, biological, instinctual need to suck as well as to nurse for comfort. It's simply built in to their biology. They are programmed that way. These needs are intrinsic to them. They are universal to every child.

Do you disagree? IOW, do you believe that they DON'T have a natural, biological, instinctual need to suck as well as to nurse for comfort? That it's NOT simply built in to their biology? That they are NOT programmed that way? That these needs are NOT intrinsic to them? That they are NOT universal to every child?

Do you think that refusing to acknowledge these very real biological needs means that they don't exist? Do you think that your children are somehow biologically different than every other child in the world?

There are only two explanations here:

1. Either your children have the same biological needs as every other child on the planet.

2. Or you simply refuse to acknowledge the very real biological needs of children.

So which is it?>>

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:14am
Fantastic, If it works for you more powere to you, i have no problem with your choice. Just a choice i would not make.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:51am
Neither adults nor children satisfy all of their biological urges all of the time.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:56am

No I read it. I just need you to show me your proof as to where you have this knowledge that (and I will use your words)I can't for the life of me figure out why you have such an issue with a child's natural, biological, instinctual need to suck as well as to nurse for comfort. It's simply built in to their biology. They are programmed that way. These needs are intrinsic to them. They are universal to every child.

So when you find this information I will read it then answer. Thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 9:59am
Not to mention that I find it very hard to believe her theory that these biological urges are the same for every child as she has claimed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:15am

"Fantastic, If it works for you more powere to you, i have no problem with your choice."

Actually, if it works for my children, more power to them. The choice was theirs, not mine.

I had no reason or motivation to get them to attach themselves to blankies, stuffed animals, transitional objects, mother substitutes, etc.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:31am

"Neither adults nor children satisfy all of their biological urges all of the time."

Yes, that is correct.

And?

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