Thoughts about this??

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 1:33pm

Huh? Just because one anti-infective agent diminishes significantly by 6 mos (and then, actually, goes back up again...) means you should wean then?

What a weird way of looking at it.

Fio

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 1:48pm

forgot it Iam not going to continue to explain myself and not listen.

I have answered this question, you must help WEAN the child from the need to suck. If a eight your old still needs to suck he really should be using other options then his mothers nipple to suck on.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 1:59pm

"I have answered this question, you must help WEAN the child from the need to suck."

I didn't.

I simply allowed them to to do it on their own, for themselves, through the use of child-led weaning.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:08pm

"If a eight your old still needs to suck he really should be using other options then his mothers nipple to suck on."

And IMO, if an eight year old still needs comfort he really should be using other options than a blankie.

BTW, please note the IMO at the beginning of my statement. As well as the lack thereof in yours.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:32pm

THis really isnt that difficult to understand. Prove this statement.

It's simply built in to their biology. They are programmed that way. These needs are intrinsic to them. They are universal to every child.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:34pm

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Go back and read what I wrote. If you actually read what I wrote you would not have come to this conclusion.

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Again...read what is written then respond.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:41pm

"I am not playing games. You are the one speaking about routine, comfort, etc. Why stop at 8. Why not roll on through high school?"

For the same reason you don't lie with your 14-yo in your arms and cuddle him while you read a bedtime story. The KID eventually grows out of that need/desire. When THEY feel it is no longer necessary, it would be abuse to continue it.

"I did explain. It is babying a child. Look at nature. Those mothers dont nurse until their babies are 8 yrs old."

Which nature? Do you mean other animals? Or other people on the planet? No matter which you mean, you are wrong to say, across the board, that mothers don't nurse their young until 8yo or older. Some societies do. It used to be common in inuit society (a hundred or more years ago, when they were still relatively "cut off" from today's technology and societal norms of the rest of N. America) to nurse up until 12-13...pretty much up until the start of puberty. It has been commonplace in many societies to nurse until 4-5yo and some did nurse longer than that too (8-9). It really depends on which society...and there are VERY MANY of them on this planet. Animals too nurse for a long time depending on the animal. I already mentioned that some dolphins, considered highly intelligent mammals, nurse for 10years or so.

Fio

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:45pm

"Crying isnt going to hurt them."

I disagree. An infant who cries really hard (screaming virtually) can burst small blood vessles in his or her brain from all that sheer force. It can also be damageing to the morale.

Fio

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:48pm

Exactly! Otherwise, why do we get milk letdowns when we hear a baby cry? ;-)

But there were TYPES of cries that stressed me out, and the more they aged, and the more they got into the "I want this or else I will have a temper tantrum" cry, the less it bothered me. ;-)

Fio

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 2:53pm

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This is what I am speaking of. How do we know they dont need it then?

The second part I was speaking about nature. Not humans...animals. Animals like the gorilla (much like humans) nurse for 3 to 4 years. A tiger 3 to 6 months. Elephants about 2 years. As for the dolphin the standard time is 3 years. They nurse until they can eat solid foods.

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