Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:07pm
Yep :)
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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:14pm
What a crazy thread, eh?
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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:49pm

I know, it was me.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:51pm

Oh, I know.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 4:06pm

Thank you so much for saying that!


This thread was sucking the life outta me, LOL! I am amazed that it's lasted this long and gone over 3300 posts. Whew!

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



You can hate me, but do it because you know me, not because I’m a member of a group. Anyways, people aren’t grapes --- you can’t weigh them in a bunch, but I guess it’s easier than dealing with people as individuals. There, I’ve solved the riddle of prejudice: it saves time.



Rita Mae Brown, US author and social activist

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 7:14pm
Very interesting indeed :)
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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 7:16pm

"Thank you so much for saying that!"

No problem :)

"This thread was sucking the life outta me, LOL! I am amazed that it's lasted this long and gone over 3300 posts. Whew!"

Yep!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 8:49pm

The fact that when you nurse, you usually HOLD your child IN YOUR ARMS for a while...10, 20, 40 min...means it is much more like a lengthy cuddle really. It is "like" a hug or a kiss in that it is a form of affection, but really, it is more akin to cuddling. It IS cuddling with the exception that the child who is nursing ALSO is suckling on a nipple...and maybe getting some milk (not always).

Otherwise, it really is cuddling since you do have your arms wrapped around them usually.

Fio

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 9:31pm

Maybe b/c "mainstream" isn't always what WE perceive as best for our children? How about you move to a country where women are generally in veils. Would you teach your child that they have to wear a veil just b/c their classmates do? I mean, if it were a matter of life or death, ie they would be stoned to death not to, maybe so...but if it were just a matter of "we tend to do it this way here, but foreigners are welcome to wear what they want" I'd personally rather encourage my child to wear clothes they want, and not necessarily cover up everything if they found a veil too hot, uncomfortable, etc. And on the other extreme, if you went to rural Africa and your 13yo daughter wanted to wander around the village with no top on and just a grass skirt would you let her? I, personally, would probably not encourage it...and TBH it has NOTHING to do with the men around there since probably they'd be more than used to seeing breasts (though they might find something exotic about my pale-skinned children): it has to do with the fact that they are pale skinned, and would burn to a crisp easily, and their risk of skin cancer and skin damage would go up by having large portions of their body exposed to the hot mid-day sun in tropical areas. What about moving to an area where most female girls had genital mutilation done to them when they were babies...would it be worth doing it to our daughters just to "blend in"? There is something to be said for encourageing children to *be themself* and not look to society and their peers all the time for cues, IMO. It can get kids into real trouble, ie drugs, drinking, etc., so I'd rather raise a child who realizes that they can have fun with friends without their friends being "the same" as them.

Fio

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 9:33pm

Maybe so, but I think the point was more that there is no *societal* reason to force moms who DON'T WANT TO WEAN to do so.

Fio

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