Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 10:58am

I feel that spanking shows that when all other options have been explored & the parent still can't "get his way" it is ok to resort to violence to "tame" his child or her child. I feel that is the message that is being given to children...and then I don't really wonder why so many people violently fly off the handle and beat their wives, or shoot people at schools, b/c really, "violence is ok if it is the only way to make your point" in their heads.

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Fio

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 11:04am
I completely disagree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 11:12am

I never bought the idea of "happy mom = happy baby". Babies are very self-centred. At 2 am do they care that you don't feel like getting up? NO, they are hungry, they cry, and they want food NOW. Do they care that their diapers stink and you don't really like changing them? No...they just do their business. I cried through many a nursing session in the first 3-4 days with my 1st daughter, when it hurt to nurse her a lot, but that didn't stop her from wanting to nurse just as often. She paid absolutely no attention to me, all she wanted was her food. I tried expressing milk and putting it in a little cup to feed her, but she wanted nothing of it despite the fact that, at that moment, it made me happier b/c it hurt less. All she wanted was the *real thing*. Even kids who at the age of 2 are starting to develop SOME empathy, who will go up to their mom who is crying and ask "why mommy sad?" could care less about mom's feelings if it doesn't mesh with what makes THEM happy, usually.

Fio

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:22pm
Oh yeah, this one too. The D'oh. The sole purpose of having it is to make somebody feel stupid, and stupidity is offensive. At least to me. We should get rid of it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:23pm

It is very apparent with your posts that you don't have an open mind with respect that nursing a 4yo is a normal, natural thing that all 4yo's will eventually outgrow (varying by age) at a slow pace,a nd it is most definitely NOT babying them, b/c once they feel they are too old to do it anymore they STOP.

Fio

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:24pm
Ditto on the extremes. I tend to distrust them.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:33pm
I always used the D'oh icon when I felt like I had been stupid. Maybe I've been using it wrong all this time :-)?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 12:35pm

I didn't read anywhere that she said she DIDN'T take a break to recompose from time to time...order in, go out for supper, get TV dinners, etc. Most people do do these things from time to time. But when it becomes mac&cheese (by Kraft) or deep fried chicken strips and fries every night b/c "you don't feel like making nutritious meals" it becomes a different issue than having those things once in a while. A woman can be tired of nursing, still continue nursing, but refuse to nurse at a certain moment in time (say after the evening bath) by distracting the child, offering a snack, and saying "yes you'll get to nurse, but only when we actually get in bed to go to sleep" which is basically the equivelant of a tired mom who doesn't feel like making a nutritious supper getting take-in pizza or something instead, once in a while.

Fio

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 1:03pm
Any kind of stupidity is offensive. Personally, I think the powers that be ought to be looking at removing all evidence of such.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 1:13pm
I could not agree more with you! Spanking always makes me cringe when I see it. IMO, it is a form of bullying.

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