Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:50am

Meh, I don't see any shame in it. My Nyssa (the little one) is 4.5 almost and if she wakes at night she still likes me to come and lie with her. If I fall asleep, so be it...I'm not going to TRY to stay awake in order to get back to my bed...particularily if it is on a saturday night (I work at a drugstore that is open until midnight...I close on saturday nights, and am there until 12:15 or so, and I open again at 7:30 sunday morning ;-)). If I happen to wake later, or be still awake when she is back to sleep, then I go back to my bed.

My older daughter, Sandrine, likes her space though. Sometimes she'll lie with us in the morning and chat, but she sleeps alone. Funny how the clingiest one when she was a baby is the most independant one now. The one who nursed the longest, the most often (she used to nurse every 20 min. around the clock up until she was 3 mos old or so, whereas Nyssa was much more typical and nursed every 1.5-2 hrs or so). She is the most independant of the 2...Nyssa still is very much a Mama's girl who likes being close and comforted. We put her in her bed with Sandrine when she was 17 mos b/c she had virtually stopped nursing at night, but *if* she wakes at night, she still likes the security of knowing I'm nearby.

Fio

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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:52am

My 4.5yo can't yet wipe her bum. She can't physically reach yet (I think her arms are a tad short maybe? ;-)). She has really weaned I'm guessing. My 7yo weaned long after she could wipe her bum. I don't really see how the 2 are linked...

Fio

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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:59am

If you have any extra big girl pants, it would be great if you could share with the class.

Robin

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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 1:38am

Yes, but agriculture (and tamed beasts and therefore milked ones) is recent in the course of human history. However, that aside, "formula" of days bygone was most often fatal. Wetnursing was really the only safe way to go up until we got to a certain sanitary level, pretty much in the last century.

Fio

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 1:45am

Me too. On every point.

I don't look at all moms who FF and think "bad mom". But personally, I feel that human milk = for human babies and that all babies should really be entitled to it, if not from their own mom, from elsewhere. I would do that for my child if I couldn't BF.

Fio

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 1:52am

I donated milk privately to a friend for her 2 kids (she had had a breast reduction and produced maybe ~40% of her children's needs) as well as to a milk bank at one point when she didn't have young infants at the same time I did.

Fio

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 2:15am

The more "whining and temper tantrumming" a child of mine does, the LESS likely they are to get their way. Rational discussion and polite requesting is the best way to do it.

THAT SAID...I spoiled my child today. ;-) We were out at the movies for a special treat, and there was one of those machines with a big metal pincher that comes down and grabs a toy or stuffed animal. It was one that you pay 2$ and you are guaranteed as many tries as you need until you get SOMETHING. We promised a little toy to each of the girls b/c they had sat well through the movie (well, we didn't SAY it was because of that, but DH and I knew...) and they were "good as gold". Well, first up to bat was Nyssa. DH got her a monkey. But he had misunderstood and she REALLY REALLY wanted a serpent. She started crying. But this wasn't like a temper tantrum or whining or being "obnoxious". She was genuinely sad. We had said we'd try to get the toy they wanted. It is just a stupid toy. It is materialistic. Normally I don't give in to such trivia. But we had said we'd try to get the toy they wanted and she seemed so sad and so forlorn...it really wasn't like a tantrum like they sometimes have (and TBH my older one is the queen of Tantrums...I would have expected a tantrum out of her probably...but the little one is the one who comes when I say to come, who says to her friends "My mom says I have to go" when she'd rather keep playing...etc. She rarely cries for what I perceive to be "silly things" whereas the older one does tonnes...what can I say, different personalities!). ANYHOW...in a nutshell, we got the purple teddy that my 7yo wanted, she was happy but the younger was still sad, though she only cried very briefly. So we tried again, to get her the serpent she really wanted. And as luck would have it, on DH's 2nd try, he caught not only the serpent she wanted (a black one) as well as 2 other blue serpents, a whale, and a blue dog!!! We hit the jackpot. And the littlest one was SO happy, pleased as punch, and was strutting around with her *3* serpents just happy as a clam, and saying "funny machine!". ;-)

Normally I'm not that way about trivial stuff. But it was worth it to see the ear-to-ear grin on her face. ;-)

Fio

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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 9:24am


Thankyou, I apreciate that, all of mine snuggle with me in bed, probably more then once a day.

I have come to realize that i need to get abe in his own bed, he has been sleeping with us basically three years, it is not good, he need to be sleeping in his own bed and dh and i in ours.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 10:26am
I don't think Lois's posts were meant to be taken seriously . . .


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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:48pm

Exactly!

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