Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:16pm

Let me clear this up for you yet again. I chose to nurse my children because: 1. I know it is the best thing to feed a baby, 2. It is FREE 3. It came very easily for me. Nowhere in my decision making did I ever think it was about bonding time. Yes there was bonding, but that bonding was no different than when I was just holding and snuggling our children. Not one bit. I dont see nursing as this great end all be experience. It was just that, nursing...aka feeding the baby.

No it doesnt change my statement at all.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:23pm

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Not really sure where the security and reassuarnce comes in but ok. My children were soothe because they were getting their bellies filled with milk. If they were upset because they had a wet diaper, or had gas, or whatever, they didnt get the breast.

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I have answered this multiple times. I wanted my children to nurse when they were hungry and that is it. It made weaning quite simple. They knew if they were upset mommy OR daddy could hold them and snuggling them. If they were hungry they knew mommy would feed them.

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I dont know if it is harmful or inappropriate. This is the way I looked at it. I wouldnt give my child food to comfort her/him so why would I nurse them when they werent hungry? I cant fathom why someone would.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:29pm

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Please link me to where I said I didnt want my children to benefit from nursing? Post number?

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I would suggest that you go back through this thread and read each post this time. Show me where I said anything about not benefitting, and how I had control over them? No wonder you are having such a hard time. You are so far off what I said it is shocking.

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LMAO. You have yourself believing this now. Again where did I say anything about not benefitting?????

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Whew...this is tiring. Again my children knew when they were hungry mommy would feed them. When they were scared, tired, gassy, etc...they were soothed in other ways. I didnt pop my breast in their mouth.

<<< Again, everything I've ever read on the topic points to the numerous built in benefits of bfing in and of itself. I've never heard of someone actively trying to prevent a child from being comforted by bfing. Your POV is truely bizarre. I have to wonder if there is something deeper going on here.>>>>

What is bizarre about not nursing my child when they werent hungry? You are right about one thing here. There is something deeper going on here, and it isnt on my end.

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:32pm
This is total garbage. I love that IQ stuff. How can that possibly be measured? You cant nurse a child for two years and check his IQ. Then start all over and not nurse him and check his IQ again. Comparing children and there IQ's is silly.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:55pm

I think youre just trying to be difficult. Everything you've posted seems to apply to pre-schoolers and at the oldest, kindergarteners. I dont think anyone has really had an issue with kids up to/through the age of 5 nursing. What has posters disgusted is the video of the woman nursing an 8 year old child.

Unless you plan to post an article about how chimpanzee's do that or some obscure tribe in a jungle somewhere does it.....Im not sure what the point is of these articles. Because thats whats being debated, not extended breastfeeding of small children.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 11:51pm
For some b/F children but certainly not all.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 11:55pm
Comparing how babies where feed? formuvla vs breast milk is silly to determine statistics in IQ's in pll? Im curious. Im not sure what your saying.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 03-31-2007 - 12:05am

We know that is is the norm for some families to choose to breastfeed school aged children. The point is some of us do not think it is a normal process of child development who attend elementary school.

My boys may rub my boobs but no way will they suckle them for comfort, they have pubic hair for gracious sakes. I would not be nursing for them but for me.

You can claim that boobs are made for nutrition not sexual needs but your incorrect, without boobs we would not be making babies. There are links that do claim that nursing is about sexual stimulation. .

It is admirable as a mother to have your suckling weaned by the time they start school, at least almost there for the childs well being and the mothers.

To each his own these parents should not do as i say, i really could care less what they choose, however it is soething that i find to be extremly unecessary.

My kids will not be allowed to lift my shirt to suckle from my breast to feel better. Iam all for extensive breastfeeding not extreme.

To use a link about monkeys to support your views is humurous.




Edited 3/31/2007 2:58 am ET by xenozany
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 03-31-2007 - 12:07am
Im not sure my first emotion is disqusting, i think it is inapropriate and unecessary.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Sat, 03-31-2007 - 12:27am

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Not one poster on the opposing side has claimed it is detrimental. that is what you said, you have asked why is it detremtental? No one offered you a response to your request b/c no one said it is detremental, what has been said it is not a necessity to feed or comfort a child.

It may be necessity for a family who finds comfort in having a elementary aged student suckle the mothers breast to feel safe and secure.

I have cliamed it may prolong the process of being self assured. I stand by that, in no way does my eight year old boy who wears a size 6 shoe need to suckle my nipple to feel self assured about himself.

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