Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:07pm

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First, let me say I appreciate that you're not being snarky in your post! I totally understand what you are saying, and trust me, before I had kids the idea of nursing a child over ONE grossed me out. Why? Because I'd never seen it, because society told me that boobies were toys, but it's OK to feed a BABY with them as long as they can't "ask for it" or, LOL, have the dexterity to unbutton your top themselves. Then I had a child and all that went out the window.


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I think that other people's feelings are valid, however I still don't understand how anyone can say that what another family does, as long as it's not hurting anyone, isn't okay. I've been very careful in this debate to not go so far as to say it's an absolute benefit for anyone to be nursed until they enter the

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:11pm

<<"Also, recent studies have shown that the benefit of increased IQ that comes with breastfeeding increases with the duration of breastfeeding.


Meaning, you don't get the same benefit at six months that you do for one year or two years. The longer you breastfeed, the higher the IQ."


Yes. That is correct!
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So wouldn't it also stand to reason that two more years on top of that would be even better?

Mary



Mom to Kevin 11/4/03



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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:16pm
Nope, not really!
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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:20pm

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"Whew...this is tiring. Again my children knew when they were hungry mommy would feed them."

And isn't this comforting, soothing, and reassuring in and of itself?

Not to mention, completely separate from the notion of being comforted by food?

"What is bizarre about not nursing my child when they werent hungry?"

Nothing LOL! What is bizarre is "actively trying to prevent a child from being comforted by bfing." I'm not talking about bfing solely for comfort here, but rather comfort simply being an added bonus of bfing.

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:20pm

I disagree! It seems like more than debating and not one person here has spoke for anyone else. You just contnue to claim we are.

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:23pm

"So wouldn't it also stand to reason that two more years on top of that would be even better?"

Indeed it would!

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:37pm
That's an easy one. Because it is nowhere NEAR accepted by the eyes of society, and I would find it to be borderline cruel to subject a child to the kind of ridicule they would receive for something that noone has remotely proven is beneficial. (Nursing a child past school age.)
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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:38pm

"Everything you've posted seems to apply to pre-schoolers and at the oldest, kindergarteners."

Generally speaking, that is correct. Although some 6 year old are in 1st grade.

"I dont think anyone has really had an issue with kids up to/through the age of 5 nursing."

Some do. Some don't.

I was merely providing evidence which support the idea that bfing a school aged child is both "normal and natural for humans."

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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:43pm
So, this study was proven to control for anything else that could possibly affect IQ? Because that is the only way it could prove causality as opposed to correlation. (I'm pretty sure the answer to that question is "no"... I've looked at said study before.)
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Sat, 03-31-2007 - 4:44pm

Please dont take my words out of context, nursing is not a sexual act, however for some mothers their minds do relate the stimulation to sexual arousal.

Breastfeeding can bring on stimulation the "cuddle hormone" oxytocin whihc is present both during nursing and sexual intercourse.

"As you may know or may have heard, you can get sexually aroused when you breastfeed. Nursing releases oxytocin, the hormone that causes both letdown and uterine contractions. Oxytocin is also released during orgasm. Don't be embarrassed by this or feel as though you're a sexual deviant. Many women feel the need to masturbate (or have sex with their partners) after nursing. Many women are also aroused by the stimulation of their nipple—which is, after all, a sexual organ, too. Finally, breastfeeding may make you feel fabulously feminine and maternal, which many women find a turn-on. The worst thing you can do is deny yourself these feelings. Pregnancy, childbearing, and feeding are all sexual processes that may wake up every sexual impulse within you."

http://www.webmd.com/content/article/87/99612.htm

Her is just one link i have many more.




Edited 3/31/2007 4:54 pm ET by xenozany

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