Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Registered: 03-12-2005
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 12:55pm
That wasn't what I was referring to here.
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Registered: 03-12-2005
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 12:59pm
"Can" would be a more appropriate word usage, don't you think? Not every woman feels sexual stimulation when nursing. I didn't. Maybe this is why you think it is wrong to nurse an 8 yo. You seem to think every woman is sexually stimulated through nursing, which isn't true.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:00pm

No i dont need you to back up that oxytocin stimulates uterine contractions, that is a no brainer, it would be nice if you could back your entire view, that oxytocin is not the cuddle hormone and that it doesnot promote sexual stimulation.

Also i saw no where that they used animals for their information but the human race.

I may be wrong.




Edited 4/2/2007 1:04 pm ET by xenozany
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Registered: 08-24-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:12pm

"Sucking v. suckling on a breast isnt really that different."

Err. I don't know what you are into but I've never had a man do anything to my breasts that was anything like when a child nurses. They are pretty damn different.

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:18pm

"People harm their children all the time. Just because it "seems" to work for that family doesnt mean that it is actually a positive thing for the child. My SO's parents used to beat the living hell out of him as a kid. It "seemed" to work for them because he was such a good, well behaved, bright, funny, head of the class kind of kid. Did it really work? Ah...no. He has a strained relationship at best with them and even now at 30 years old, if I go to playfully slap his arm, it really bothers him."

Given that I KNOW people who breastfed long past the normal age as children (3-5 yrs), and none of the dire predictions about humiliation, twisted sexuality, or personal independance are anywhere near true for any of them, I'm going to have to say you are incorrect in your assumptions on this one.

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:19pm

I have stayed out of this because for some reason, probably divine providence, I cannot access the original video....nevertheless....I do believe that it's appropriate to call "oxytocin" the feel-good hormone. It's release in the brain is associated with feelings of calm, well-being, and pleasure. It's why many of us who haven't nursed in years have feelings of pleasure attached to the memories of nursing...why a nursing session, when all is going well, is calming to both mother AND child. And yeah, that feeling of pleasure, of all being well in the world, is one that made me feel, if not sexually stimulated, open to sexual advances from DH. So what? I personally believe that's the way God designed it, that babies are supposed to derive pleasure as well as nutrition from nursing, and that mothers/women are also designed to derive pleasure from nursing their babies.

And I am personally comfortable with extended nursing -- did it myself, although my gut reaction is that nursing at the age of seven or eight is so far off the charts that it makes me wonder what ELSE is off the charts there in terms of the parent/child relationship -- and what in heaven's name would prompt ANYONE to post a video of a nursing school aged child on the internet? Still not having seen the video, it seems a bit exploitative of the child to me.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:21pm

Right. And then I qualified that statement. Im fully aware that they are different. However, they are more similar than a peck on the cheek/lips and french kissing.

But hey, you know feel free to take my statement out of context to try to counter a point I wasnt making.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:23pm


Maybe I am completely off the mark here and I started this thread.

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:23pm

Sure, can or even may, however the point is nursing produces oxytocin the cuddle hormone in children and the mother when nursing, in sexual realtions and during labor.

You told me my statments where fasle, they are not. That is what iam debating, Iam not debating if other mothers used nursing to get sexually stimulated. None of my business.

No i do not seem to think evey women gets stimulated thru nursing, care to back that up.

Iam offering you information that is does happen.

I also do not think it is wrong to nurse a 8 year old i do not think it is necessary to nurse a eight year old for growth and development.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 1:24pm

Oh ok. I'll change my opinion based on anecdotal evidence you claim to have. :-)

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What did you mean by this? You know people have done it until their children were 3-5, or beyond 5? Because I have stated repeatedly I have no issue with 3-5.

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