Thoughts about this??

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Thoughts about this??
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Tue, 03-27-2007 - 11:53am

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:40pm

What an unusual question. If mothers are so happily breastfeeding the 7 yo, or even the 3 yo, and feel there's nothing harmful about it, then how come no one does it in public?

The only place I've seen the child who is 2 yo and older being breastfed is at La Leche meetings.

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:41pm


I don't know about abusive but I sure think it is not something I would like to see if it works.

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:48pm

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PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:49pm

<Nothing! Nothing besides the fact that they apperently still nurse. I don't understand how someone can just decide that it's a bad thing based only on that. >


Did you watch the video?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:54pm

Not me.

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:56pm
The debate was what I was referring to. For someone that said they were through you certainly arent showing it very well.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 3:00pm

It does stimulate uterine

PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 3:00pm

If you can't see where I have been saying there is harm, then you haven't been reading my posts about the frustrated and sometimes "temper tantrumming* 2's and 3's where the child is expected to develop coping skills and self-soothing abilities. Also, you've missed my posts where I've explained that many here agree they would be grossed if their mother bf beyond the first year. And you've missed my posts clarifying the mother cannot possibly edict the future about how her child will feel about the ick factor - so why gamble with the child's future.

As for comfort, I have no doubt the 3 yo knowing he will bf when Mom comes home from work is doing so for comfort. So, that blows your theory out of the water.

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Have you read my posts? I breastfed each of my children each for one year. I noticed you think experience is a prerequisite for answering your posts. So allow me to add that BF'ing is an escape, it is an easy way to pacify a child who is upset or frustrated or otherwise has not yet learned coping skills. Thus, I have no doubt IME that a child knowing Mom will bf after work will view that as a way to comfort him from ALL of the trials and tribulations 3yos experience in their very demanding days.

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Exactly. Spoiling my kids with toys to pacify them is an abuse. It delays real life and the attainment of a milestone. Similarly, bf'ing the child to comfort him when 1.) he no longer needs bm for nutrition and 2.) is at an age where he is so eager for independence and even wants to learn his own coping skills is abusive.

<> If you can predict the future and you know your 3 yo will not look back with regret, more power to you. But no one can predict the future. So, I weaned knowing we were going to have to work on the normal coping skills 1 yos have at their disposal. Guess what? It couldn't have been easier and my 1 yos were sooo resilient that I realized it would have been selfish and "all about me" to continue bf'ing.

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 3:03pm

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Can you provide a link from a medical source that states oxytocin is the "cuddle hormone"?


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 3:03pm
I only got a chance to scan it, but it's very interesting (I printed it for later).

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