thoughts of a full-time student...

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thoughts of a full-time student...
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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:23pm
Sometimes a mother HAS to work in order to provide for her children. My mom had to, and she did it without guilt or complaint because she knew she was doing the best thing she could for her children. I am luckier than some, and thanks to my wonderful husband I will not have to work, but I am a full-time student. I think stay-at-home and working moms should stop criticizing eachother and realize that everyone is in a different situation, and as long as you are doing what YOU feel is best for your children then everybody else should mind their own business.
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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:29pm

And I dont think the reasons one woh or sah should matter. I dont think a woh who *has* to work is anything noble or special-for the most part, we ALL *have to work* in some capacity. I dont see men getting the excuse that they *have to work*, its simply expected of them. We live in a society where it is getting more and more difficult to survive on one income, so having to work is simply moot, imo.

Dj

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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:39pm
Well, I generally agree, that we each must decide for ourselves what's best and most appropriate for our own families.
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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 12:53pm

Well yeah, but wait till you have kids:) I used to feel exactly the same way before I had kids. Couldnt figure out why anyone would care if someone else worked or not. In fact, I still feel that way -- but now that I have two children, and am pregnant with a third, I'm very interested in others points of view on a topic (children and raising them) that's at the center of my life.

I don't think we are here arguing so much as exchanging points of view -- at least most the time.

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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 2:58pm
Women who *have to work* are not usually considered noble or special. In fact, they are sometimes judged by women who do not need to work to supplement their income, and made to feel that they are inadequate because they aren't spending every minute of every day with their children. I believe that is how children develop their independence and it is almost necessary for mothers and/or fathers to be away from their children for a few hours out of the week, at least.
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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 3:05pm

I believe that is how children develop their independence and it is almost necessary for mothers and/or fathers to be away from their children for a few hours out of the week, at least.


I competely 100% agree with this statement.

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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 4:09pm
You missed my point. Having to work or working by choice really make no difference overall and does not need justification. People should do what they want and what is best for their families. And its certainly been *debated* on this board a million times about how wrong it is to woh by choice or woh for *extras*, that if people just cut back they too could afford sah.

Dj

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Sat, 09-08-2007 - 10:11pm

I wasn't sure if I got your point or not...and being human, I automatically went for the defense. What I was really trying to say is that different things work for different families...some women don't *need* to work, but *want* to and so forth. So I think that we're on the same page, I just misunderstood!

Oh and about the woh's and sah's.....?