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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 11:33am

I was at a wedding this weekend and was talking to my boyfriend's best friend's mother.

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Registered: 05-06-2007
In reply to: ladybugmak
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 5:22pm
I think she meant to post to me but posted to you by accident... I could be wrong though. It's been a long day.

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Registered: 09-21-2008
In reply to: ladybugmak
Wed, 10-01-2008 - 5:57pm
long day...I hear that

 

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Registered: 02-20-2006
In reply to: ladybugmak
Thu, 10-23-2008 - 9:49pm

Sounds like she is looking for validation for her choices. I think many times when women "give up their careers to raise children" they want people to agree with their decision, so they feel "right" in having given something up. Here's the thing though, we all give things up when we have kids. Some do give up careers, some give up spending as much time with friends, some give up their hobbies, some give up getting their hair and nails done every week. We all make decisions about what we are willing to give up for the betterment of our children, and in turn ourselves. As far as reading at 4, big deal. My oldest dd read at 4, and she went to daycare for 13 months, and she went to preschool, even when I wasn't working. My 2 dd's who I was home with full time have actually taken longer to read. So basically, she was using her anecdotal evidence to support her decision to stay home.

I find it to be a real slap in the face though. I have worked full time, part time, out of the house, from home, what ever was needed to ensure that we were taken care of. I don't consider myself to have sacrificed my children in order to work. I work in order to take the best care of my children that I can. If you can do that and not work, then go for it. If you can do that and work, then go for it. I think it is such a ridiculous, petty pi$$ing match for women to say snarky things like that to one another.

Besides, I am better than all of you because I work PT and homeschool my children...oh, and I go to school, too! (end sarcasm!)

"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
~Albert Einstein




Edited 10/23/2008 9:55 pm ET by momof3sprouts
"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift." ~Albert Einstein

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