In today's economy, how can U stay home?
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| Mon, 08-07-2006 - 2:46pm |
I am 33 and am basically now sadly coming to the conclusion that we just can't have kids. I just don't know how people do it. In order to afford our mortgage, my husband and I both have to work full-time. And we bought a home in the least expensive market we could find in proximity to our jobs, so we commute up to four hours a day to make this work.
However, we both agreed, long long ago that we would only have kids if we could raise them ourselves. We just can't in good conscience reconcile the idea of having children and then handing them off to some stranger who is making close to minimum wages to rear them, and who can't possibly care about them as much as we do. And what would be the point? We would miss all their development and "firsts" and wouldn't be a close family, and they would grow up with attachment issues due to rapidly changing daycare staffing. No, if we can't do it the right way, we don't want to do it at all. We feel it's selfish to have them because WE WANT them; we decided long ago only to have them if we felt we could give them a wonderful life filled with love, hope, and opportunity.
So I am getting up there in age now, and I don't see things changing. The only people I see around me having children are people who 1) have family who live close by and can take care of their kids, 2) rich people, or women who marry rich men to be more specific, and 3) people whose families help them out financially.
Is there a chance for two people like us to have a family, when we don't have any of the above advantages? It doesn't seem like it should be THIS impossible! We're both hard workers who make decent money TOGETHER. Separately, it's not enough, but together, it's a good amount.
HOW could we make it happen? I have heard that having children after 34 the risks just go up and up and up, that they may not be healthy...

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I already did take my pick.
Sure, I make this up at along. Because I stated that co-sleeping with an infant that wakes frequently to nurse means more time with that infant than someone with an infant in another room sleeping through the night, I must be making it up as I go along because I repeated that statement again.
Yeah, everything I'm saying, I make up to fit whatever I'm saying at the moment. Like, for example, my 14 month-old, he can't really cliimb! I just made that up. He's not even 14 months old! I made that up, too. I made up the co-sleeping part, too! It's all lies, lies, lies! Happy?
While that is your preference, that doesn't make you right.
What do you achieve with this preference? Total domination over your child's life?
As I thought. You have nothing to back up your statments.
Incredible that you can believe yourself right and openly admit that any data you can come up with won't stand the light of day.
"As I thought. You have nothing to back up your statments.
Incredible that you can believe yourself right and openly admit that any data you can come up with won't stand the light of day."
Sounds EXACTLY the same as you stating that Canada has declared WMs bad.
ROFL
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