"Too young for daycare"?
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| Wed, 02-13-2008 - 10:12pm |
I was considering going to work full time starting in the fall, and when I told my mother she said that 1 year old is too young for Joe to be suddenly thrust into full time daycare. When I think of the combination of how his separation anxiety will be at its peak and the fact that he's never been in daycare, I agree that for him, under his circumstances, it might be much less of a shock if I wait until he's 2 years old (of course by then I might be having my next child and the whole thing will start over again, LOL).
But anyway, "too young for full-time daycare"? What do you consider to be too young for full-time daycare? I've always had the "6 weeks, then back to work" American expectation in my head, so this is actually a new thought for me.
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Yes. We. Did.
ftr,i never implied that dc was some evil,tormented place.
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I know you didn't :o) It was just that when I read what I wrote it sounded like "poor me, not only did my parents divorce, but they also sent me to daycare", and it wasn't like that at all.
I think some daycares are good, some are bad, some kids adjust easily, some don't. In the daycare my DD went to there was a little girl of around ten months who had just started after having been home with her mom. At home she had not been stimulated physically at all, she had only been lying on the floor or sitting in a bouncy seat, so she couldn't sit or carry weight on her legs at all, at ten months! For her daycare was definitely much better than being at home.
I think a 1 year old will adapt to daycare much more easily than a 2 year old.
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
"I"m pretty sure that kid is scarred for life from the trauma."
And I'm pretty sure she's not.
i was thinking the same thing. i let a friend from work watch my dd for a few months before i started using my sister in law. every time i saw her or her kids, they all seemed happy and clean and everything. you know what they say about not knowing what happens behind closed doors, right? well, i have no proof, but i dont think she was taking very good care of my dd-i think she pretty much put her in the play pen and thats where she stayed all day. plus her house was always trashed when i went over there... my dd was almost a year old when she stopped watching her and my dd is fine. she went to being watched by my sil and then a trusted cousin after that and suffered no ill effects from her time with the 1 woman. they really dont remember-it doesnt scar them for life...
joanne
maman2goons@yaho.com
There's nothing to be gained by taking a long leave anyway.
yes there is. theres more bonding time with baby, plus more adjustment time for mommy to learn how to be mommy...and also you dont have to pay for child care if youre off work. my dd who cried every time we went to leave her at 1 year old is a hapy adjusted 7 1/2 year old. i was more upset than her one the first day of kindergarten-and on that day, she had been home for the past year. (we had relatives staying with us who watched my kids from sep. 2004-sep. of 2006. all we did was leave for work during the day-the kids didnt have to go anywhere)i remember a girl in 2nd grade crying during class-cuz she missed her family. i had a hard time adjusting to first grade...but we all got over it. we all grew into adulthood and i dont know the girl personally now, but im pretty sure she is a well adjusted adult. it happens. kids adjust. there will be an adjustment factor anyway-even if they start dc at 6 weeks old-after being home all weekend with mommy, monday may be hard day. separation anxiety happens-kids get over it. period.
joanne
maman2goons@yahoo.com
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