Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..

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Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..
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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:39pm


1. We NEED two incomes to survive... Yeah Right! I honestly believe that out of the people that say this 90% would be just fine if they would cut their lifestyle, move to a cheaper area and sacrifice. I am not buying it one bit when people say this.

2. I put my kid in Daycare for the socialization.. Good grief, how much socialization does a 10 month old need?? Besides there are better ways to much socialize young children.

3. I am a better mom if I work outside the home.. UGHH! How in the world do you think you are a better mom by handing your kid off to Grandma or someone else to raise while you go work?? Unless you are going to beat them or verbally abuse them, I always think at home with mom is where kids thrive the most..

THere are others I can't stand, but these are my top 3. Have at it..

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:29pm

in our situation, i don't see it being any different if she even makes it to 20 or (G-d willing), 25 or more. At that point it's possible that she'll be too big to make changing her anywhere but home a difficult prospect at all.

Carole

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:37pm

Yes, this scenario you described does raise some questions for me.

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So, the fact that the 3yo is your niece and not your dd is somewhat beside the point.

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So, you'd have no issues with a 3yo watching Alyssa be changed, even if Alyssa were much older? Hm-m-m.

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I can't agree with you that one's level of functioning determines whether we think of them as a child or call them "Baby" this or that. I'd hate to think that if I were to suffer a catastrophic injury tomorrow and become that incapacitated, I would become a child in everyone's eyes.

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Before, you said she was generally called "Baby Alyssa", so hence my confusion. Who calls her "Baby Alyssa", and under what circumstances?

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:40pm
Opinions differ, of course, and I'm sure anyone with such a needy child has to invent their strategies as they go along. But I don't think I'd like my 3yo to see a 15, 20 or 25yo getting their diaper changed on any sort of regular basis, at home or anywhere else, for several different reasons.
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:42pm

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because in the example given, the host/hostess would be people that i didn't know very well -- certainly not as well as I know family and close friends. My sis and I each have older children (she has a 17 year old dd and I have an almost 16 year old ds) and spent years in each other's homes changing kids whenever and wherever needed.

No, there was no issue with the 3-year old's comfort level, LOL! If anything she was very, very curious.....

carole

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:47pm
As we all know, kids can get used to anything, but does that mean anything they're used to is perfectly fine?
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:51pm

I agree. However in this case a cover would have probably been the difference between life and death.

http://www.newsday.com/news/local/longisland/ny-lidrwn0607,0,7088432.story?coll=ny-main-bigpix

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:52pm
My 6 year old still takes showers with me occassionally.
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:54pm

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correct. i was striving for accuracy.

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correct again.

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that is certainly YOUR perogative. HOWEVER, as she IS MY CHILD, I can call her anything I want and certainly, she has not, nor will ever move beyond the baby stage in any way except for chronological age.

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totally different and irrelevant example. YOU are an adult. Any injury that left you incapacitated would not change that for YOU. Can you understand that my child will forever perpetually be an infant?

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We generally call her baby alyssa when we are with her younger cousins. All of the older cousins and adults generally call her alyssa. Sometimes I call her 'baby alyssa' here because it reminds posters of her level of functioning. Sorry for any confusion that may have caused.

To confuse you more, she is now, has been and always will be my baby -- no matter what her age.

carole

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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 5:56pm

OY! We're talking about a diaper change. Really, I think you're just looking to make this a huge, blow-out deal and it's just not. It's not even on my radar of anything that would be a big deal.

carole

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 6:00pm

Seems like Carole's sister is comfortable with her niece being changed on the couch, and is comfortable with her 3 year old daughter being exposed to it. I would imagine that it won't likely affect the 3 year old either way. If it was something she was shielded from and not allowed to see, that would seem normal to her, and if was something she grew up exposed to, that would seem normal to her too. KWIM?

Dbf's younger sister was a special needs child who passed on at age 12. Not only was changing her diaper in front of family normal/common for them, he actually used to change her occasionally as well. I found this shocking when he first told me about it! I really couldnt imagine a 17 year old boy being ok with changing his 11 year old sister's diaper. But to him it was just a normal part of his family's life with Nicki. I asked him one time if it freaked him out to change her when she began to experience puberty and he looked at me like I was a moron. He was like, "Jame, she was sick and like a baby, I never thought of it on that level at all."

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