Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..
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Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:39pm


1. We NEED two incomes to survive... Yeah Right! I honestly believe that out of the people that say this 90% would be just fine if they would cut their lifestyle, move to a cheaper area and sacrifice. I am not buying it one bit when people say this.

2. I put my kid in Daycare for the socialization.. Good grief, how much socialization does a 10 month old need?? Besides there are better ways to much socialize young children.

3. I am a better mom if I work outside the home.. UGHH! How in the world do you think you are a better mom by handing your kid off to Grandma or someone else to raise while you go work?? Unless you are going to beat them or verbally abuse them, I always think at home with mom is where kids thrive the most..

THere are others I can't stand, but these are my top 3. Have at it..

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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 4:27pm
Is it that difficult for you to see that some people see SAH has a lot of value to it? Not everyone chucks their career to SAH. Some people chose to SAH and then return to their career when their children are older. I dont need to pick a career in order to see that. I certainly dont think that any career would ever be worth my family. Some people chose different paths and I cant understand why you cant see that some think SAH with their children has more value than any career.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 4:44pm

"Some people chose different paths and I cant understand why you cant see that some think SAH with their children has more value than any career."


I can. But can you see some careers have more value to a person that other careers do to other people?

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 5:39pm
Lol. I felt the same way when I read that post. Like I should go make some popcorn!! :-)

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 5:58pm
i don't disagree.....but a child expected to withstand an extended absense even after a school day is over is *more* likely to exhibit less behaved,crabby behavior than a child who gets to go home and unwind.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 6:08pm
You misunderstood. WOH does not necessarily preclude meeting the child at the bus stop in the afternoon. I know many families who can do this while having dual wohps. THe only extended absense is when the children are in school.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 6:23pm

I disagree with this. I got to "unwind" at aftercare as a kid. We got to run around, play with our friends, do crafts, do our homework, have a snack, etc. Not much different than what my friends did after school at home.

In fact I think it was more fun a lot of the time because I know my mom and I know there is no way she would have had some craft arranged every day or let me have 10 + friends over every afternoon to play with had she been home.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 8:08pm
i disagree. I think it's all temperament -- completely independent of mom's work status.
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Registered: 07-26-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 9:40pm
I think that is what I have said all along. A person that works as a grocery store manager may value their job just as much as a person that earned a medical degree. It is an individual thing.
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Registered: 05-09-2006
Tue, 07-10-2007 - 11:19pm
Oh, I'm sure "katharina1976" is still here; she's just wearing different socks. ;)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 12:13am

More to the central point, all other things being equal (which they never are, lol), wouldn't you imagine a doctor would have to think harder about becoming a SAHP than a parent with a trade or profession she or he had worked much less for?"

Yes definetly. I don't actually know any Dr's who are SAHP's....I do know a few ex lawyers, one of whom I know quite well and who was a top performing partner with one of the highest profile firms in the states....Also know a few women with other advanced degrees who are at home parents now...oh and my husband! Not a dr but has an advanced degree in econometrics.

In any event, I agree with you. Usually the more highly educated and/or succesful in their chosen career, the more the decision needs to be thought through. I know its true in my personal exp.

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