Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-04-2003
Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..
1516
Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:39pm


1. We NEED two incomes to survive... Yeah Right! I honestly believe that out of the people that say this 90% would be just fine if they would cut their lifestyle, move to a cheaper area and sacrifice. I am not buying it one bit when people say this.

2. I put my kid in Daycare for the socialization.. Good grief, how much socialization does a 10 month old need?? Besides there are better ways to much socialize young children.

3. I am a better mom if I work outside the home.. UGHH! How in the world do you think you are a better mom by handing your kid off to Grandma or someone else to raise while you go work?? Unless you are going to beat them or verbally abuse them, I always think at home with mom is where kids thrive the most..

THere are others I can't stand, but these are my top 3. Have at it..

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:07pm
It's that dratted context thing again.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-08-2001
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:08pm

I really don't understand what the big deal is here, or why it's so difficult to figure out. The poster she responded to said that their pool had limited hours (paraphrasing), and she replied with a wink, mine's always open (again, paraphrasing).

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-05-2000
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:08pm

I must admit (and have in past posts) that while I loved Erica from the minute she was born, it took about 5 years before I started "liking" her.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-14-2003
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:11pm

problems with bonding overwhelmingly stem from physiological and psychological problems (the child is on the autism spectrum, the parent or child has an attachment disorder, the parent is depressed, etc.).

i returned to work about six weeks after both of my children were born (i'm ecstatic to be able to say that i'm married to one of those sissy men that so disgust you, and certain that my children's lives are a million times the better for it), and our bond couldn't possibly be stronger. the only two women who i know well who i would say clearly have forged weak bonds with their own children had were depressed for the first few years of their children's lives, and both happened to be sahps.

while attributing poor bonding to work status seems to be a pretty consistent theme among the most mean spirited of militant sahps, i have never seen anything that makes me think that the suggestion is anything but an ugly and cruel (to people who actually grapple with such physcioligical and psychologial problems, as well as to the wohps they are targeting) gambit.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:12pm
I also think that however much you love your newborn, there really is a period of getting to know a new child -- however much you know babies in general, this one is a brand new one to you, and there is a process of figuring out how or even whether the baby likes to be held, whether the baby prefers light or dark rooms, what noise level the baby can tolerate, what kind of measures comfort the baby, not to mention the whole nursing scene. I don't know if six or eight weeks would have been enough for me. I do know that both times I went back to work, I wished I had a little longer. It was easier with my second than with my first, but part of that was knowing, through experience, that the baby would be fine with our caregiver.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:14pm
I guess so. How old do you look now that you have done all that laughing?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:15pm
That explains nothing. Please show me this context to which you re referring.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2006
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:17pm
I havent said anything about anyone jumping in her pool. There is nothing different here. Since the original post was about a community pool, and PKA worte a vague message. IMHO it was more about baiting the issue. A clear...our personal pool is open 24/7 for our family would have cleared it up quickly.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:19pm
I don't know. I guess I look like a fifty one year old woman who has done a lot of laughing.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-04-1997
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 12:23pm
I'm sure you have other strengths.

Pages