Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..
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| Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:39pm |
1. We NEED two incomes to survive... Yeah Right! I honestly believe that out of the people that say this 90% would be just fine if they would cut their lifestyle, move to a cheaper area and sacrifice. I am not buying it one bit when people say this.
2. I put my kid in Daycare for the socialization.. Good grief, how much socialization does a 10 month old need?? Besides there are better ways to much socialize young children.
3. I am a better mom if I work outside the home.. UGHH! How in the world do you think you are a better mom by handing your kid off to Grandma or someone else to raise while you go work?? Unless you are going to beat them or verbally abuse them, I always think at home with mom is where kids thrive the most..
THere are others I can't stand, but these are my top 3. Have at it..

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"What is a "short" maternity leave IYO?"
In my opinion I would think anything under 3 months is absolutely short; 6 months would be acceptable for me(for myself) but would mean that any breastfeeding after that would be challenging, and my ideal is 1 year.
That is only my opinion and I don't judge anyone for taking any less. As I mentioned I took 11 and 10 months respectively; returning out of need the first time and returning for a great job opp the second.
"The key is being an involved parent when you are *with* them."
I do think this is the key to bonding as well although I still think more time with them cannot possibly detract from that...and could theoretically intensify a bond(not definitively, just theoretically)
" We were and continue to be involved parents so our bonds with them have never been affected no matter what our work status."
You sound like great parents.
I cried for an hour in the truck as we pulled away from our DC after saying "goodbye" when we moved. I have a photo album that we(the DC and I) made of all the children and the home...and I go through at at least a couple times/wk with DS so he will not forget them as they are now considered family(an incredible woman and her husband who is a paramedic that run a dayhome).
I keep in touch with them via phone/email and took DS to see them last wknd. It is so hard to find really great people but when you do they are akin to family in the raising of a child; I can attest to that and agree in the *village* sentiment there. I still don't know if I am willing to say she is "the same" as my staying at home with DS would have been(although admittedly...some of that could just be pride) but she was definately the closest 2nd(excluding my DH).
I am sincere; I appreciate the suggestion and I already do that(although I only started encouraging him to read there to keep him occupied long enough to sit there AND to hopefully help him not feel as pressured).
As for the second paragraph; are you meaning that sarcastically based on a preconception you think I would have regarding SAHM and potty training?
Breastfeeding can be challenging when one returns to work, however, it is usually still possible. I went back to work after 12 weeks, and continued to breastfeed and pump until she was nearly 10 m/o. Unfortunately for me, my milk production was lacking at that point and she self-weaned. I would definitely have continued to at least one year if not for that problem. I breastfed my other four until they were at least a year old, however, I did have to supplement with them starting around 9 m/o b/c that's when my milk production started to decrease.
For me personally, breastfeeding was well established by 12 weeks. I'm not sure I would have said the same thing at six weeks - well established I guess, but I was still trying to manage my output and leaked quite often. I was quite happy to have an additional six weeks to get that under control.
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"you asked if we were able to BOND with our infants before returning to work."
No, to correct you I asked(see above along with the several clarifications made since that post) if a short mat leave leads to LESS bonding...making it easier to return to work(than it would be if you had a longer mat leave which MAY have led to MORE bonding).
"no choice at all"...you mean like when PAID maternity leave runs out??? Yeah, that's when I went back."
end of paid maternity leave does not always mean no choice. My first mat leave was when ONLY 6 months were paid...and I remained off for 11 months. It still a choice for me as I still could afford to continue at home and I returned when there was "no choice" for me as I needed to financially by 11 months.
Are you fine now or do you need me to clarify further?
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