Top 3 Excuses I Can't Stand from WOHMs..
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| Fri, 06-29-2007 - 1:39pm |
1. We NEED two incomes to survive... Yeah Right! I honestly believe that out of the people that say this 90% would be just fine if they would cut their lifestyle, move to a cheaper area and sacrifice. I am not buying it one bit when people say this.
2. I put my kid in Daycare for the socialization.. Good grief, how much socialization does a 10 month old need?? Besides there are better ways to much socialize young children.
3. I am a better mom if I work outside the home.. UGHH! How in the world do you think you are a better mom by handing your kid off to Grandma or someone else to raise while you go work?? Unless you are going to beat them or verbally abuse them, I always think at home with mom is where kids thrive the most..
THere are others I can't stand, but these are my top 3. Have at it..

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"One even wonders whether there is some attempt going on to make PumpkinAngel seem foolish for making a joking comment and expecting that people would not see the joke. If so, it's not working."
I think you're overanalyzing this. She stated her pool is open 24/7. I dont know what she means, I'm thinking, "what? are you looking to get sued up the wazoo?"
"PumpkinAngel does not come out of all this looking foolish."
Of course not!
I don't go to the public pool with our pool because...why bother? We have friends over at least 2x a week in summer and the kids have a ball. We do do regular upkeep. We have a pool guy who keeps everything balanced, etc. once a week.
We do take our kids to the pool at our club once a week for swim america lessons but that's the extent of it!
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Now who's overanalyzing?? LOL! She clarified her comment many, many times, as did other posters, and you still don't know what she means? Perhaps you should read the posts again. I think that pumpkinangel more than clarified and it shouldn't be her problem if you still don't get it.
Mary
Mom to Kevin 11/4/03
Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You'll realize this as soon as they are born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you.
Ray Romano, actor/comedian
I am wondering if (here is my broad generalization) a short mat leave such as what is common in the US leads to less bonding with an infant making it easier to return to work?"
A very short maternity leave like we have in the US imposed on many working women is awful. I'm not sure that it leads to "less bonding" with an infant, but I do think we are in a shameful minority (with four other 3rd world countries) that have no set longer maternity leave. I would prefer to see 6-12 months unpaid than the 12 weeks we currently have.
Personally, I took 14 months off with my twins. I don't know if allowed me to 'bond' with them more than if I worked, but I was unprepared and unwilling to go back to work when there were 3 months, or 6 months old.
" would have to say that I have been involved in more milestones with my son than I was with my DD so in THAT way I feel "closer" to him that I think I did at the same point with my DD. I was not very involved in her potty training very much(for example) so I felt a little more unfamiliar with her creating a bit more of a distance perhaps."
That's interesting. I was a SAHM when ds was potty-trained and a WOHM when dd potty-trained. Ds was such a breeze that I didn't feel very involved in the whole process...it took a bit of explaining, leaving him to it for 3-4 days and that was it. Bliss! Dd, otoh, determinedly wanted to potty-train from the time she was about 2.5 years old. The problem was her physical capabilities (holding urine for more than 15 minutes etc.) didn't quite match up to her ambition. It took a year of dealing with constant accidents at home and in dc before she was fully potty-trained. I felt VERY involved in that process since she was still at home more than she was in dc and that meant that we still had to deal with the majority of the accidents. Not bliss :-).
A bit late on this trying to catch up to posts, sorry!
Dh went back to work when ds was about 3 months old. Later he went back to work about a week after dd was born. Of the two of them, I'd say that he has a somewhat closer relationship with dd (I think it's a father/daughter thing). Overall, he is most definitely as bonded to the kids as I am (and they to him). But then, he never really worked crazy hours and has always had plenty of time with the kids in the mornings, evenings and on weekends.
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