Topic of House Wives?

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Topic of House Wives?
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 2:31pm
In reading over the debate board it is as obvious as the sun in the sky today that you have great disdain for women who are house wives. Even when in the discussions I've been reading it has been said it is a decision by both spouses that the wife will be at home. Why do you snub those who are obviously living so happily? And why can you not realize that those who have husbands that do help willingly and by their own accord around the house are not shoving, pawing off, neglecting, being lazy about the work around the house, it is a pre-agreement between two married people who are adults & are very capable of making decisions of how things will be? Can you just not accept that people's marriages and their relationships are at opposite ends of the spectrum and that they have a husband who would rather them take the kids to the pool (or wherever) than to bother with the housework?

I didn't know where to post this on the regular discussion as I can't figure out this congested format. I do well to lurk and read but when I go to post it gets so confusing. I apologize for starting a new category. Like a zoo in here.

I really should introduce myself since I decided to quit sitting on my hands and say something. I'm a house wife and sahm. You probably will have extra disdain for those house wives who have full time maids for the clean up and cooking.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 2:36pm
Don't mistake not putting them on a pedestal for disdain. And please refrain from starting new threads with my name in them.
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:12pm
Didn't think you'd be brave enough to address the points I brought up. I'd say it is because we all really know what you think.

I explained why I started a new question because of this congested format and I apologized for it once in the original posting. I addressed the question to you because I thought you might be big enough to own up and answer the points I addressed, all of them.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:17pm
Well I don't appreciate your starting a new thread. I make it a point to answer posters worth debating so there was no reason to call this out in new thread other than for effect.


Edited 6/15/2003 3:17:58 PM ET by cyndiluwho
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:31pm
As I said, I knew you wouldn't be brave enough to address the points I brought up in this post directed to you. You just proved what I already knew. You have great disdain (we are not talking pedestals) for women who don't choose to woh and for women who sah and their husbands don't mind helping out. You have great disdain for women who sah with maids even more. It is your issue, not the wives living the lifestyles that make them and their husbands happy.

ChefsDozen

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:40pm
Ummm...she did answer you completely. She said she had no disdain for SAHM's, she just didn't place them on a pedestal. Therefore, the rest of your questions are irrelevent.

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:58pm
There is a section below if you want to do personal messages to individuals. This section is for General Discussion, open debates for all.
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 3:59pm
Why is it always one extreme or the other. Because I don't think SAH is anything special, I MUST have disdain for SAHM's???
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 4:03pm
We aren't talking about "special", "pedestals". It was a direct question of your overall theory of women who choose lives so incredibly opposite and different from your own direction with the full and complete encouragement of their husbands.
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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 4:05pm
I was asking a question pertaining to a debate. I would think personal messages would be for talking to one another about such things that are not related to the sahm/wohm debate. I have nothing to ask Cindy on a personal level, just from a debate point of view on her feelings and why on this issue. I would have posted in the thread but as I've said now for the 3rd time I couldn't figure out where to post to Cindy directly and everything moves around and gets so jumbled it is hard to follow.


ChefsDozen

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Sun, 06-15-2003 - 4:15pm
It may pertain to a debate but when you put someone's name in the title then it is on a personal level.

Postly to Cyndi directly is fairly easy. Just find any of her posts and reply to it.

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