Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Traditional roles, Are they really....
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am |
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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Edited 9/28/2004 8:24 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
When I got pg and asked him not to smoke around me he said he wouldn't smoke in the house after the baby was born. After she was born, he said he wouldn't smoke in the house once we moved. Once we moved, he told me I was a bitch for nagging him. If anyone but me asked him to not smoke around them, he would have obliged. He wasn't going to be told what to do in his own house. I asked for the same couresty he shows his coworkers and got told to go to hell. No, he wasn't doing that before we got married because I wasn't asking him not to smoke around me. I was a smoker myself. I quit when we first started discussing having kids and, heaven forbid, expected him not to smoke around them.
Edited 9/28/2004 8:01 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
So you knew he was a smoker. . .and it's not the smoking, in and of itself, that turns you off. . .just that he doesn't smoke outside like you want him to.
That sounds using sex as a commodity, if not a weapon.
A lot of research came out between his first set of kids and ours. By the time our girls were born, we knew how harmful smoking around kids is. That's why I quit before I even thought about getting pg. Yes, I had reason to think it would be different. For one, no one was asking him not to smoke in the house when the boys were young. As their step mother, I didn't feel it my place to tell him what he could do around his kids and, honestly, I dind't appreciate the dangers of second hand smoke back then.
Edited 9/28/2004 8:19 pm ET ET by grimalkinskeeper
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