Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Traditional roles, Are they really....
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am |
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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In answer to your question, far more than he ever deserved.
I'm not someone who needs someone else in my life. It's nice but I'm not going to put my kids through a divorce because I want to date. In fact, I have no intention of ever dating again. My kids don't need to compete with my love life. So what does it matter whether I stay or go here? I was willing to stick it out for the kids. Now I have to leave for the kids. The situation has changed from one where I felt my children were better off in a two parent household to one where I feel they are better off with us divorced.
I don't get your posts. You question why I'm divorcing him yet think I should have long ago. Divorce was not an option until staying married would be worse on my kids than a divorce. This ceased to be about dh and I when the girls came into the picture. Whether or not I stay married has to do with what is best for them and it is now best I leave. Maybe I should have long ago but one thing I can say is I gave it my best.
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