Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Traditional roles, Are they really....
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am |
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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Jenna
And I speak from the experience of seeing what living in a loveless marriage did to my parents . . .and myself when they divorced (finally) when I was 19 and my brother was 15.
I truly wished they'd done it earlier. . .it's sad to see your parents waste precious years of their life being unnecessarily unhappy . . .years
I don't question why you're divorcing your husband. . what gave you that impression.
I have a good friend who is in a similar situation and she won't leave her dh (who is a complete a$$) although nearly all of our mutual friends think she should. He humiliates her in public (at football practices and games) and is disrespectful to nearly everyone he comes in contact with. But she was divorced from her first dh because he cheated onw. her and it was really hard on her dd (who is in college now). Her dd is very close with her current dh and she has another child (a boy who plays football with my ds). She just won't put her kids through another divorce so she stays.
I am not convinced it is the best thing for her or the kids but she does stay.
I disagree with particular points you sometimes make, but I do understand the position you are in and how difficult it is to make a decision, regardless of whether the decision is to stay or to leave.
Good luck with this difficult journey.
Jenna
I didn't say leave if you aren't happy. . .but I stand by the contention that *I* would leave if I had no LOVE for my husband.
In my marriage I've had times when I was MORE than unhappy. . .but I still loved my husband so I tried to work it out. . .and so far we've made it.
Virgo
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