Traditional roles, Are they really....

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Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:28pm

Virgo's opinion on the dissolution of my marriage carries a hell of

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:30pm

TMI to quote your friend GMK

Virgo

Virgo
 
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:43pm
The burden of proof lies with you. It certainly isn't my job to sort through hundreds of archived posts.~Lisa
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 5:43pm

GMK didn't break any 'rules' according to me. . .everyone has to make these kinds of decisions based on their own life.


However, IF she was so disgusted by and disrespected

Virgo
 
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:12pm

I guess part of the problem here is that I've never fallen out of love with my dh. . .even in our darkest moments when I've been mad as hell at him and NOT liked him at all. . .I did love him (which made not liking him very painful).


Virgo
 
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:24pm

"Virgo knows, boy does she know, how I have taken the responsibility for my portion of the problems in our marriage. I take NO responsibilty for xh's affair; but I do share in joint responsibility for the state of the marriage prior to the affair. "


I tried to write something similar to that earlier.

Mondo

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:28pm
Nice diagnosis, Dr. Sorry dear but you are not qualified to tell me I have unresolved issues but just for fun, exactly what issues are those?
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:29pm
I'm sure it's been done before....

Mondo

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:32pm
So, where am I wrong?
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 6:33pm
I agree. Frankly, I don't see how forcing yourself to have sex with someone when you're not interested can help.

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