Traditional roles, Are they really....

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Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:22pm

Neither or you. So why are you so convinced everyone else is wrong? Why aren't you admitting other people have

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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:26pm
Wow - you even give thumbs down to people who are SUPPORTING YOU. Amazing. Do you only read every other word to save time, or what?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 1:29am
Didn't he have to reverse his vasectomy in order for you to get pregnant? Would he have really gone through all that if he didn't want kids with you?

How does his plan (or lack thereof) to retire change if you divorce? Does it mean he may need to work even longer than if you stayed married?

And if you don't mind, what did you like about your dh when you first got together? Could you give us something good about him so we don't keep thinking you were a dolt for having married him in the first place?

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 6:42am
I am objecting to rubbing her nose in it. Why does everyone care so much about the role she played in the degradation of the relationship? I don't recall reading that she thinks she is setting a great example for her children. She knows the divorce will be hard on them. It's a painful enough situation, why kick someone when they are down?~Lisa
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:00am

<<I don't recall reading that she thinks she is setting a great example for her children. >>


Oh...my...God.


If you have so little comprehension of what it is we're debating here, I recommend you sit in the corner and don't come out trying to slap everyone down for something you know absolutely nothing about.


If I had a dime for every time CLW has tooted her own "I am a wonderful role model" horn I could retire.

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:11am
I'm still wondering why everyone seems to care so much? It's fun to kick people, I guess.
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:48am
Since you called me "Doctor," giving you my diagnosis will cost you money. Do what the rest of us did -- go see a therapist instead of using the Internet to work through your issues.

outside_the_box_mom

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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:48am
Hello? Who said you shouldn't get a divorce?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:54am
"You say there is proof that she is wrong." I most certainly did not.
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 8:55am
You need to reread ALL her posts. She has stated on numerous occasions she thinks she is being a *great* role model to them. She is showing them that a woman who is disrespected by her DH doesn't have to stick around for it. She is showing them that a woman does NOT have to change for her DH. Since she won't be getting married again, she is showing them they DO NOT NEED A MAN.

Read her posts.

I don't know about you, but I personally subscribe to the theory that a marriage is made up to two people. And when that marriage disintergrates, it's the fault of both people. CLW/GK keeps bringing her personal life to this board. Don't fault the rest of us for questioning her choices. It's a DEBATE board. If she wants support, I'm sure iV has a divorce support board.

outside_the_box_mom

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