Traditional roles, Are they really....
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Traditional roles, Are they really....
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 9:04am |
healthy for women or men? Let me just preface this by saying I have been living in a traditional role my entire married life. Dh brings home the paycheck and I raise the kids. This past weekend we came from a family gathering that involved all the women working and all of the men sitting and watching sports. Frankly, I am sick of it.I am completely wiped out after those things! I have four kids, two of which are 3 and 5 and need to be supervised, so I am working twice as hard! Just this morning dh told me not to buy anything without clearing it with him first....bleck! I am beginning to feel as if the kids get short changed when families are traditional. Dads don't interact with their kids as much as they should. Moms get to feel like a slave to their families. I am beginning to feel as if it is best for families if the mom at least works part time because then the dh can be more active in parenting and keeping up the household. This is sort of a vent but a debate as well. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts.~Lisa

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CLW brings ALL her problems here ALL THE TIME. Then she gets mad whenever anyone calls her on what she brings here.
outside_the_box_mom
The Dr. Laura book is another issue. All you see is the book when I think you need to see the MESSAGE he was trying to send with the book. From where I stand he was indicating that the marriage was something he WANTED to save. He was acknowledging serious marital issues, which is very difficult for people to do. He was also indicating that he wanted the marital issues fixed, NOT that he wanted out of the marriage. That is the macro level. You refused to see the macro level and looked ONLY at the book and the details of the book. I think you need to see the big picture. And in the big picture the book is just a tool he used to send a message. It's NOT the message itself.
He tried SOMETHING, although he did it ineloquently. You responded by divorcing him. If the marriage was something that was worth saving you could have responded to his message without responding to the tool he used to convey his message. In other words, you could have responded by discussing with him what was making BOTH of you unhappy in your marriage. It was a starting point, not an ending point.
And so THAT is why I say that if I had to come down on a side I would come down with him. BUT it is really difficult to know what happened to lead up to this. And for that reason it is nearly impossible for anyone to really say with any degree of certainty whether you are right or wrong in your choices.
Jenna
Jenna
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