Transitioning back to work

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Transitioning back to work
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 12:25pm
I'm not sure if this topic belongs here - so feel free to ignore or redirect me. I was on another board and the topic of what should the Stay-at-Homes years count for when you transition back to the work world. Does staying at home allow you to develop new skills or do you just go right back to entry-level? Does this subject come up here once in a while? My quick review of recent threads didn't come up with anything.



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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 7:01pm
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Mon, 04-28-2008 - 7:21pm


It is a valuable skill set...if you're a parent taking care of a home, otherwise, not so much.



I don't, do you?

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:21pm

>>For what position, exactly, do you think being a parent makes one uniquely qualified?<<

None, that I can think of. It's not that being a parent makes you uniquely qualified to do anything. It's kind of the opposite. The relevant skills are not so much unique and specified as broad and overarching. Becoming a parent, as you say, is no small feat. For me at least, and I sort of presume all parents, it changes your perspective dramatically. So at the very least you are able to view the world through two different perspectives. That is a skill that I think should be marketable.

Managing children or a household teaches you other broad skills such as empathizing, valuing differing opinions, motivating others, negotiating, time management, limit setting, a broader sense of self, etc. All of these skills carry over into most lines of work, think: Be a team player. Does that make more sense? I thought the article I found covered a few of the skills, but if I go check now, I'll loose this post.

It doesn't teach you specific or unique skills aka the best way to swish a toilet or a new computer application, but it does provide an opportunity to develop skills which can make you a more valuable employee, IMO.

What I don't understand is why the "experience" only counts if you are fine tuning a craft.

When people take time off from work or manage both work and family, I would like to think the broad skills at the very least are a counterweight for the loss of flexibility. I'd like to think that generally when a person takes a slower track or a break temporarily to raise a family, that that time is not considered a complete wash as far as marketable skills. Am I living in a dreamworld? Doesn't parenting offer growth opportunities?




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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 11:15am

At the same time, though, you seem to be dismissive of wohps. When one poster noted that “ do all the stuff sah moms do but we do it in addition to working at other jobs,” you replied “Well, not necessarily do, so much as hire out. Somebody's gotta be with the kids.” Which begs the question, why dismiss the op’s point by citing “hiring out”? Wouldn’t the natural response to an honest discussion of *parenting* generally acknowledged that, yes, as parents,

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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 7:09pm
I will just re-iterate that perhaps trying to have a non SAH vs WOH debate here is impossible.



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Wed, 04-30-2008 - 9:18pm

actually no it's not as we've debated everything from the size of wine glasses to grill marks on chicken

but your subject does lend itself to the debate that this board is all about-- I'm curious why you would post it here in the debate section if not to have a good debate -- I think Chimair raised some excellent points, I'd love to hear your thoughts.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 10:03pm

>>I think Chimair raised some excellent points<<

If you think she raised some interesting points, then by all means, address them. I don't, so I can't.




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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 6:51am
well for the mostpart I agree with her so I'd just giving her a 'yup. thumbs up' - I thin you brought an interesting subject to the board and it would be interesting to give it a little more legs...
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 9:23am

I think perhaps you didn't get the responses you were looking for, and now you're looking for a *way out*.


It was a good debate topic.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 9:34am

Duh. Unless you post in the Personal folder, that's right.


Parenting and household management skills probably increase the marketability of a person with little education or work experience, but do nothing for an already specialized or highly skilled or educated person.


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