Well I did IVF/ICSI x2 (plus two failed frozen cycles in between) while working and never had any issues with my employers at the time. Go figure.
Very tough decisions. I just went through our second IVF this past Jan/ Feb and now have a 2 month old. I had done a previous IVF for my twins, now 4. Both while working very *very* full time. Both worked.
I too am the main bread winner and more importantly for us, I enjoy what I do. So I chose to keep working, and, will continue to work now.
Good luck to you! Its a hard slog, but the outcome can be magic:)
I think we will take your advice and do a trial run of living on just his income.
I have no strong opinions about what is best for you and your family.
When I went thru fertility treatments, it was so incrediably time consuming for 6 months I'm so glad I had quit my job beforehand. Actually I probably would have been fired. I don't think most employers would have dealt with the amount of time off I needed every month.
As far as childcare, I don't know. I don't understand your question. are you talking about working during fertility treatments or when you actually have a baby?