Trying to Decide

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Trying to Decide
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:06pm
Ok here's the situation. (Brief synopsis of my life) Right now I'm a SAHM. I start school on June 9, taking only one online class and then I will be going to school FT in the Fall. Also, I do the business end of my dh's side business. (Mobile Mechanic, I do the books and also get all the parts and supplies during the day, which is an incredible amount of running around!) DS just turned 3 on Sunday, and he will be going to preschool 3 days a week definitely in the fall, maybe sooner if he wants to. Last week I was planning on getting a local PT job, maybe nights and weekends like I had before. (Last year) Now I found out I'm pregnant. (Have been ttc for a long time, I just had given up!) I'm trying to decide now if I should get that PT job or not. It would help with the finances, although we're not in a hole or anything. I mean, I can pay the bills and buy food and have a little extra right now, I'm just thinking a cushion would be nice. So is it worth it for me to scoop that onto my plate? I know this is probably a question I need ot answer for myself... I just would like some suggestions or something I guess. Ack! Why didn't they make life with an instruction booklet.
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:41pm
Hey, congratulations! I had just signed a contract with a university and had them pay to move me halfway across the country when I found out I was pregnant with ds #1 after years of I know how you feel....

The question about the PT job is -- how much of a hassle would it be to work through your pregnancy for the extra $$$ and then quit once the baby is actually born? Do you have to make a certain commitment to stay if you take the job?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 12:45pm
It wouldn't be any sort of professional job, it would probably be in retail, since I doubt anyone would be interested in hiring me for 8 months only nights and weekends. I'm just not sure I will be able to handle it if I do it.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 1:00pm
I would go with your instincts. Retail is really hard physically-picking up clothes, hanging them and unloading trucks. Plus, you may not want the hassle right now.

For a little extra money, you might want to check with the local churches. They always need babysitters for Wednesday night and other activities. My church paid 7.00 an hour and I worked every other Wednesday for the Men's Bible Study. I had 3 children plus my own and they all just played. I would not want to do it full-time or on Sunday but it is just a thought. Also, since you order supplies and do bookkeeping, maybe you could get a part-time job doing that with someone.

You have alot on your plate and you may not want to add to it. I would try to find that magical part-time job that did not require a huge commitment and a huge hassle.


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Mallory (age 3)


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-29-2003 - 3:38pm
Hey, thanks for the ideas! I'm pretty familiar with retail, I did it for a long time, and did it for my entire first pregnancy.. so I know I could physically do it, however, I don't know if I could physically do it along with going to school and my son and the side business! LOL
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Thu, 05-29-2003 - 6:46pm
I was in a similar situation about two years ago. I had been ttc for a year and a half, so decided to start my PhD. Of course, a soon as I got accepted, I got pregnant! I deferred for a year, but then decided to put it off indefinitely. At the same time, I was offered a job teaching at a college that I was very interested in getting into. I refused the summer work (too sick and tired b/c on drugs), but accepted half-time in the fall. I told them I was pregnant, as I wanted to keep a good relationship with them. I took the work to get onto the hiring list, and also to make myself eligible for the federal mat leave (I'm Canadian). All that to say that it was tough w/ another child (5 yrs at the time), but worth it for me b/c I'm now on the seniority list and went back when my son was a year old. I also got my year off w/ unemployment insurance. In your case, with school, DH's business and a 3yo in pt preschool, I think it might be too much. You may well need that extra time to rest or--ugh!--do homework, lol.

Good luck, and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy.