Is trying to get alone time selfish?
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|Wed, 07-02-2003 - 10:44am|
He just does not understand the concept of alone time-he thinks going to the gym or going to church is alone time. I say no because I have to take the children and put them in the nursery. If something happens to them, I have to go get them. Not alone time. Alone time to me is no children and no husband. Just me, myself and I doing what I want. The fight last week started because I wanted to go to the pool alone while the kids and he went to an airshow. He thought I was being selfish. I explained I had the children every Saturday while he ran triathlons and marathons. He was having alone time and I wanted the same right. He thought triathlons and marathons were not alone time even though he was not wathcing the children, worrying about the children or arranged their care. Whatever. Obvisously, I have some issues about this.
Here are my questions:
1. Does work status have any bearing on alone time needed? Do SAHM's need more alone time or is it the personality of the mother?
2. Do some men arrange childcare and can they be cloned? Or at least teach my husband how to pick up the phone and ask someone to watch our children?
3. Is alone time selfish when you are a mother or is it self-perservation?
4. Do other couples fight about this or are we just strange? I am being nosey but we seem to argue about it more and more.