Unique contributions to society

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Unique contributions to society
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 4:12pm

In another thread, the "unique" contributions of SAHM's were alluded to but it wasn't stated what they are. Let's play a game and find out what they are. First, pretend that as of tomorrow, all moms SAH and detail what will be missing from society then pretend that all moms go to work and detail what will be missing from society. I'm really curious as to what people think a world without SAHM's orWOHM's would look like.

If all the moms who SAH went to work then the library would move story hour to the evening and summer vacation bible school would be held in the evenings so that all kids can attend and not just the kids of SAHM's. Banks would likely shift their hours to later in the day and you'd see more 24 hour stores. I think there would be more home cooking style restaurants too. I think day care centers would improve because of increased demand.

If all moms who WOH suddenly SAH, you'd see fewer service industries around because moms could do things themselves instead of paying for them. The nursing shortage would be more of a shortage. We'd probably have a shortage of teachers too. There'd be fewer government services because there'd be less tax dollars to pay for them. I can't think of anything else right now.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:05pm
I'd venture to guess that if I blindfolded yesmomma or m3t or others that say "daycare is not preschool", took them into the preschool room at my center, had them observe for 3-4 hours ... and then did the same thing at a stand-alone preschool, they wouldn't be able to tell me which was which.
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:10pm
Well, I said I don't consider daycare and preschool the same thing, but I didn't say that they do different things. I had just posted that the local daycares and preschool activities seem to be the same thing. I would use a 'preschool' for the social interaction, and if it was structured a little, to prepare my child for kindergarten. But I am not using a daycare on a regular basis because my husband and I are taking care of our own children on a daily basis.
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:35pm

My post wasn't intended to disagree with you.

But, you shot yourself in the foot, because now I DO disagree with you:
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Umm, sorry, but even the parents of children in daycare take care of their own children on a daily basis.

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 7:53pm

That's a truly scary fact, and the reason I haven't taken up my neighbor on her offer to care for DS occasionally. It's not that I think anything would happen, but give the statistics and the fact that I don't know her DH or DS well I just don't feel comfortable taking the risk. Even if that risk is negligible, IMO it's not worth scarring a child for life. OTOH, there a is a handful of family members (5) that I would leave DS with for a few hours (given the opportunity!) because I or DH lived with them for at least 18 years and know their character.

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I'm now differentiating between day care and other forms of childcare because you did in your post and the link I posted also differentiates between dcp's and other forms of childcare. I believe the same link I posted shows day cares to account for around 25% of the "othercare."

Do you know that you won't murder someone? How do you know you won't? I know that I won't abuse someone else, regardless of the circumstances. I know my character, and I know that I seek help when necessary. And my relatives, friends, and neighbors aren't caring for DS. I am.

I don't think I've made the claim that all parents are better suited to care for children than day care providers. In fact, I'm of the opinion that some parents probably shouldn't be allowed to have children at all. My husband's nephew right now is a SAHD and I believe his son would be much, much better in almost any day care. But for me the debate boils down to a personal level, and if it didn't I wouldn't spend my "me time" engaging in this debate: is MY son better in day care or not? And while I've moderated my opinion of day cares thanks to posters on this board, I have yet to encounter any evidence that suggests that I should return to work immediately and put my kid in day care.

No, there are no guarantees. But I can vouch for myself with my son, and I think you would agree along with the other WOHM's here that you can guarantee you won't abuse your children.

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:01pm
How many hours a week do they work?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:04pm

Not imo...he has no desire to be a 11 grader reader in the fourth grade he rather be a regular kid learning how to function in the real world than read on a level that is so advanced and beyond hie time ...it does nothing for his future.

Reading comes naturally to him and as i unschool he read' s on advanced levels "b/c it is " but b/c of those gift's he has learned how to function with all ppl in reality. Not just the school's definition of advanced reader.

there is a huge difference. IMO!

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:10pm

What iam saying is that for my family a day care center would not be a the preschool enviormnemet iam looking for for my preschooler.

I would not put my kid's into a facilty that provides all day care for children b/c imo that is day care...i would be looking for a preschool. Nothing more.

Iam not claiming there are not DCcenter's that do not provide preschool for children but that would not be my choice for preschool. Understood?

I would be looking for a preschool that provides care thru play a few hours a day a few day;s a week for all children who attend.

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:11pm
So, if a kid is an advanced reader, s/he can't function with people in reality?
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:12pm
i would be able to b/c in my neck of the wood's there preschools and there are daycare's and they are quite different for the need of each parnet and child.
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Registered: 10-11-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 8:16pm
What do you mean by othercare...i know my children would not thrive in all day care outside of my home. They would be a mess. They would not be happy and they would make this very clear to me.


Edited 10/28/2006 1:25 am ET by yesmomma

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