Unique contributions to society
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| Thu, 10-19-2006 - 4:12pm |
In another thread, the "unique" contributions of SAHM's were alluded to but it wasn't stated what they are. Let's play a game and find out what they are. First, pretend that as of tomorrow, all moms SAH and detail what will be missing from society then pretend that all moms go to work and detail what will be missing from society. I'm really curious as to what people think a world without SAHM's orWOHM's would look like.
If all the moms who SAH went to work then the library would move story hour to the evening and summer vacation bible school would be held in the evenings so that all kids can attend and not just the kids of SAHM's. Banks would likely shift their hours to later in the day and you'd see more 24 hour stores. I think there would be more home cooking style restaurants too. I think day care centers would improve because of increased demand.
If all moms who WOH suddenly SAH, you'd see fewer service industries around because moms could do things themselves instead of paying for them. The nursing shortage would be more of a shortage. We'd probably have a shortage of teachers too. There'd be fewer government services because there'd be less tax dollars to pay for them. I can't think of anything else right now.

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We're similar. Savannah joined the school experimental orchestra (during the regular school days) and the choir (before school, but when she'd normally be at before care). Since there was no money, or chauffering, or extra time involved, I didn't consult Allen. In fact, I didn't even consult myself; I just signed the permission slip and let Savannah make the decision. I go out to lunch without Allen all the time and he without me and we dont' consult each other then. The only time we do is if I've said to him "Whoa, funds are tight right now." Then he'll check with me first.
There are a lot of little decisions that have no effect on each other that we make on our own. But there are a lot of little decisions that DO effect each other; those we consult on. It may still be 99% my decision and 1% his, but at least he's in the loop. Or vice versa.
Im agree with you some men are like this. unacceptable imo they are abuser's.
It is called being submissive for some i see it as spousal abuse.
If my dh ever insisted...i'd laugh in his face.
<<"If we can't agree, I'll just buy what I want, because I'm the one who earns the money.">>
If you are going to use a car purchase as an example - I can answer. I have a BIL who has been in the car dealership industry for 20 years and he has NEVER experienced a situation like this. You just have a different set of friends that would let money be that important I guess.
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I think it would be a safe bet that it is more than "lots of other couples" - I would bet it is the majority of couples.
Also worth noting, though, is I would expect to see less problems with this when there is sufficient income to cover all needs and some wants.
I have found that people who are normally quite equitable will resort to the "Decider" (I love that term) model of marriage when there is a dual condition: economic NEED and extremely different opinions on how to handle it. Thus, the person with the greater earning POWER gets the say - because they are the ones to keep the family afloat.
It may be Darwinian, true, but in a very practical way. And I don't think any of us can say we'd be entirely exempt of dealing with this kind of pressure if the situation ever came up.
It's like saying I'd never spank a child in anger. At some point you realize that if you didn't keep your own temper in check - you could easily do it.
Mondo
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