Vacation Time

mamatastic

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Registered: 05-22-2006

Vacation Time

19	Tue, 04-08-2008 - 2:58pm

Hi, I have been lurking for a while trying to work up the nerve to start a post! So here goes…..

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momof2petite_filles

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Registered: 03-26-2003

In reply to: mamatastic

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 3:08pm

The answer is always . . . it would depend, lol. It depends on if the working parent always has every weekend off and has tons of his own "me time" to do stuff and doesn't help out with family stuff on the weekend. But if he is never taking me time, or doesn't have that much there is nothing wrong with taking a day to play golf. If the mom wants a day to do what she wants, she should communicate that & work out a different day, either a weekend or a different day that dad takes the day off (if they have no money for babysitters). Really both mom & dad need some time to do what they want, child free. But I wouldn't say the dad can't take a day to go play golf on a vacation day--it should be balanced out.

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texigan_again

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Registered: 05-14-2006

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 4:06pm

whatdayaknow

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Registered: 04-04-2005

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 4:15pm

Absolutely!!! Every SAHM I know goes on girls nights out and weekend getaways. I have been on several with them.

mamatastic

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Registered: 05-22-2006

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 4:28pm

<< Only in the same way that a SAH should give a WOH days off for "fun stuff".

ashmama

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Registered: 05-27-1998

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 7:05pm

I have a friend who complains about stuff like this all the time, and I cannot help but think, "If you talk like this to him, it's no wonder he'd rather spend his free time away from the family."

Everyone needs a break from both work and family.

4thekids2001

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Registered: 03-26-2003

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 8:31pm

I wish my DH would go do something fun. He takes time off in the winter becasue he hates working outside when it's bitter cold and he takes time off if I need him to or if I plan a vacation and he also does some "I don't feel like getting out of bed days". He's taking 3 days off next month for me to go to Outdoor Education with our oldest. He'll be home with the other 5,

georgiana_jane

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Registered: 10-24-2007

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Tue, 04-08-2008 - 10:02pm

It's hard to comment on a family that I don't know - either or neither of them could be complete jerks - but in our case my DH works such long hours, in such a physically and mentally exhausting job (he loves it but it's intense), that I don't make any demands of him at all in terms of giving me *time off*.

myshkamouse

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Registered: 03-26-2003

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 12:01am

Should the working parent be obligated to give the SAH parent days off for “fun stuff”?

finally_me

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Registered: 04-22-2005

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Wed, 04-09-2008 - 9:59am

I think each parent, regardless of work status, needs the occasional day off from both work and home. I'm assuming the husband doesn't work days AND nights AND weekends? She needs to pick a date that he's off of work (such as a Saturday), and let him know that she's taking a day off. If he wants to stay with the kids, great. If not, he can find a sitter.