the value of having a SAHP

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the value of having a SAHP
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Wed, 02-13-2008 - 8:57am

Whatever your circumstances, and whatever your family's complex mixture of reasons for choosing to have a SAHP, or not....


do you see any value at all, for a typical child, in having a SAHP (either short term or long term)?


Even if in your family, the many benefits of having dual-WOHPs outweigh any potential benefits of having a SAHP (or if having a SAHP is literally impossible for whatever reason), do you actually acknowledge that that are benefits to be had by choosing to have a SAHP?


(on the assumption that the hypothetical SAHP is happy to SAH, and puts a lot into it)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:19pm

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Question for you then....what about sahps who have multiple siblings, even twins?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-09-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:22pm
I think there is value in a SAHP or a WOHP.
Jess


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Registered: 08-26-2007
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:43pm

"I believe it's the sucking and closeness to mom."

Sometimes, the extreme emphasis nursing moms put on the closeness to themselves their children supposedly feel makes me wonder if it's not more about feeding this fascination with themselves they have rather than anything that is good for the child.

You also missed her point. When children go through teething, they bite to relieve the pain. My child seemed more in pain when she tried to suck.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 2:51pm

i only work 181 days per year.....that is, technically, only 1/2 a year -- does that make me a sahp?


eileen

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:00pm

A child having a "SAHP situation" by no means defines the working status of the parents.

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:02pm

No, IMO, that makes you a PTWOHM with FT othercare.


Robin

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:03pm
I'm sorry, but having lived the "child is cared for mostly by parents" situation for years, and having an outside job, it's not the same thing as being a SAHP. It might be almost the same thing for the kid (assuming the job itself doesn't bring some benefits to the kid) but it is a WAY different experience for the parent involved.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:04pm
Then you're not arguing the value of having a SAHP, you are arguing the value of not using daycare. Not the same thing.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:06pm

Truly, having done both, I see no benefits per se of one over the other.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-13-2008 - 3:06pm
I can see how being a SAHM is better for YOU. Most of what you describe as the benefits of having a SAHP are benefits to YOU, not directly to your kid. You LIKE being a SAHM, which is fine. Wonderful. But the fact that you are doing what you like is not necessarily a benefit to your kid.

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