Volunteering

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Registered: 06-04-2003
Volunteering
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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 1:41pm

For the past 6 years my children have been in a school with volunteering during school hours. You could be a class parent, plan parties, go on field trips, spirit day, lunch room, recess, coaching, etc.



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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:11pm

this school year is still pretty fresh but i LOVE to volunteer, i dont' volunteer in capacities i don't want to..last year, i helped with grandparent breakfast, pciture day, a couple parties that year....frankly, the grade i totally want to jump into is middle school now thta i have TWO there, the first PTSA group meeting is the end of htis month, i know volunteering or involvment there will not be the same as in the elementary but that's what excites me even more.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:24pm

Either you misread my post or I am a horid communicator. Either way...



I love to volunteer - some of the best days of my life.



The problem is that some volunteer just suck.



I do not like the people my children were exposed to during the times volunteers are allowed in the school.



What to do with a person that loves to volunteer - does it all the time - but is just plain bad at it. They yell at the kids, cause problems all the time.

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Registered: 01-08-2009
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:31pm

I actually have many of the same qualms you do about the role of parent volunteers in the classroom. The elementary school my younger son went to was so full of parents volunteers for this, that, and the other thing that you would go in for your hours and then fall all over fifteen other people looking for something meaningful to do. I mean, I would be there in the art room with four other women and the teacher would be saying, "OK, one of you can take down the bulletin board, one of you can wash the brushes, one of you can sort the paper scraps, and the other, well, uhm, you can, lemme see, you can, I don't know, would you like to sharpen all the colored pencils? And then fifteen minutes later we'd be back with "what do you want us to do now?"

Then there were the room parties. Parents would go all out and spend three hundred bucks on decorations, game supplies, treat bags, whatever. One year there was a door decorating contest for the book fair. It had a pirate theme One lady hired a handyman who built up a pirate ship kind of entrance, including the gangplank for third graders to walk from the hall to the classroom. It must have cost her at least five hundred bucks. And the whole time they are telling the kids, "Be careful! Don't touch! Don't fall!" I was really hoping they would give the prize, which was a hundred dollars of free books for the classroom to someone else, but how could they?

And then there is the gossip. My son told me he was in the nurse's office and overheard two Moms speculating about whether some child was just weird or maybe had a diagnosable mental problem. My kid never liked that kid, but after hearing that went out of his way to be nice to her just to get even with those two Moms for saying mean things about her in his presence, so maybe it was a positive thing after all.

Another Mom one time brought in a birthday cake for her son. It was a kitty litter cake, with some kind of edible sand on the frosting and big tootsie rolls to stand for cat turds. Evidently it was supposed to be hilarious, but my son was so grossed out he couldn't eat, and the Mom spent the whole time (according to him, anyway) making fun of him for being so sensitive.

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Registered: 02-24-2010
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:35pm

I know what you mean and that does sound like some problem parents/volunteers. I think volunteering in the school can be a great positive thing. But I also think if the parents are going to be working with students, they should go to some training before they are allowed to do that.

If the volunteering involves making copies in the workroom or organizing a school event, then it isn't as important to me that they get training and I think volunteers in schools should be mainly focused on that sort of task.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:43pm

Bingo!



I could go on and on and on with the same stories.



The mean gossip about the kids is so evil I can't even repeat it on this board.



Hey - do we go to the same school - I wish we did so I felt it was just our school. Seem to be an epidemic.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2010
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 2:46pm
I love to volunteer, and do a lot of it...just not at school, for the very reasons that you mentioned.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 3:26pm

What to do with a person that loves to volunteer - does it all the time - but is just plain bad at it. They yell at the kids, cause problems all the time.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 3:43pm

My experience is not with the people that only do it out of obligation. It is the people that are there every day and think they run the school. They are just bad at it.



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Registered: 05-10-2009
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 4:46pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
In reply to: mamageek
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 5:01pm

I've never been a fan of volunteers in the classroom.


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