Volunteering

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Volunteering
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Thu, 09-09-2010 - 1:41pm

For the past 6 years my children have been in a school with volunteering during school hours. You could be a class parent, plan parties, go on field trips, spirit day, lunch room, recess, coaching, etc.



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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 6:11am

My impression is the parents at our school are pretty fair minded and treat the kids well



my experiences too.

 

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 7:32am

"What you describe definitely happens, but only in schools where there is a failure of leadership on the part of the principal. "

I agree. We have a similar over supply of parents volunteering. A few uber volunteers, but I have't seen the favoritism that the OP describes. However, it isn't just sahms, it is wohms and sahds and wohds too. I would say that the volunteering is about even between woh and sah parents - with a slight edge to the wohs as they are the larger population.

In the early years, we were in the classroom. I helped out during writing time. Mainly walking around with a stapler and answering spelling questions - no teaching. Or during small groups, I would take a group to the Pod and play an educational game. Again, no real teaching.

It does peter out as the children age. My youngest is now in upper elementary school and the cadre of parents has dwindled to a more realistic level. In middle school, there are still adequate numbers, but not an over abundance. Mostly, we write checks in middle school. No HS experience.

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Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 7:42am
I agree with the leadership thing. My H really thought the principal "wore a skirt" - funny thing the vice principal who actually wore a skirt was tougher. I think he should put her in charge of volunteers.
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Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 7:45am

You can accomplish anything if you don't care who gets the credit.



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Registered: 06-04-2003
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 7:50am

I don't find it is a SAH vs. WOH thing either - I don't think it is just a mom vs dad thing either.



If I had to generalize - I do find the dad thing more in sports and budgeting and the moms more in the every day part of school.



I also see the SAH's being more like - "look at me I volunteer" while the WOH's have a little more resentment "hey I do just as much as you".



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Registered: 08-22-2009
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 8:06am
One of DD2's principals in elementary school used to tell the kids "You read X amount of books this year and I will XXX. One year when the kids met the goal he spent the night sleeping on top of the school. Another year he wore a dress to school. Being a 6 foot 4 former college football player I do not think it was easy to find a dress that fit.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 8:17am
i love what your boss said..we should start a thread of just inspirational sayings like that.

 

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 8:38am

"I also see the SAH's being more like - "look at me I volunteer" while the WOH's have a little more resentment "hey I do just as much as you"."

TBH, I haven't seen that as a separator between woh and sah parents. I see the "look at me I volunteer" no matter where I volunteer, regardless of work status. They tend to like the recognition dinners and dohickeys that organizations pass out to their volunteers. I also see the "veteran" or cultural volunteers for which volunteering is a part of their life that they just do- no bells or whistles. It could be more of a personality thing. Some people need/like the "atta boys" and "atta girls", others prefer to stay in the sidelines.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 8:39am
He could have borrowed a Hogette costume. Some of those guys are big.
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Registered: 02-04-2009
In reply to: mamageek
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 9:10am
I really liked it too, which is doubtless why it's stuck with me for 20+ years :) I don't think we should NEVER get credit for things we do, either--I'm not advocating martyrdom. But I find it can help me set priorities--what's important here? Getting the credit or getting the job done?

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